How desperate are women to find a partner when they get older?

Well most of them here choose their partner not because of lust rather it is becare of the paranoia of not getting a guy before 30 years old.

Hey there, good luck to you in finding mr.Right. Don't wait too long though.

hey there padma, it's just that when 20, some girls go to college and then they have frens who have boyfriends and already planned for marriage therefore some are very scared that they might not get one when they go to work as it is hard to build a relationship that will lead to a marriage. In my place, it's a goal in life for girls to get married. Is this situation a maturing process for women or a pathetic act of despair.

That is what I thought too, but now I am guessing that these are women who are desperate to have children before they turn 35! It is not soo important but it is drummed into us that we will be too old after that and that our babies cold be born with a disorder if we wait too long. I found out this is not true, as 80 percent of down syndrome babies are born to women nuder thirty-five, it is only that so few women over thirty-five have babies and there is a higher percentage of babies born disabled because of that. So out of one hundred babies born with down syndrome, eighty are born to women under thirty-five, only twenty are born to women over thirty-five. But the number of babies born in that same year to women over thirty-five is not so many, so that affects the numbers.

Hey there, yeah i should've put there older girls. Typo. In the world I live in where girls are still controlled by their parents at 20 plus, they are usually very homely and do not dare to get too adventurous with their lives and thus, need a man to lead them in life.

It just goes to show how many different cultures there are on myLot and how we all view things from a different perspective depending on where we come from eh! Ellie:D

Yup... So it's ok for girls to marry late there?

Yes here in the Uk some women wait until mid thirties after they have established a good career and usually this is when they decide they want to have children, some marry earlier it really all depends on the individual but there is no presure at all to be married and left home by a certain age, and many own their own properties too before meeting someone and have leaved independly away from parents since their teens. Ellie:D

I live in California and so I have heard of people getting married at any age! Even in their seventies or eighties, people can meet someone that they want to marry. If it were not for the need to have children younger, many women and men would not get married until they reach their forties! So many end the marriage with divorce anyway, the second time around comes at a later age and usually works out much better than the first time.

I guess it really depends on where we are. Geez 30 is considered too old in my country.

What a shame! Thirty is so young here, even people in their forties and fifties are not considered old. I know people who were together for twenty years, then got married.

Geez... there are women here who are can think outside the cultural beliefs here. Parents here will only feel that their job is done when they have seen their children get married which led to them pressurizing their girls to get pretty and find a man.

Aparents job is never done, LOL. Olivemai, myself and many other woman around the world are fairly independent from our parents at quite a young age whether married or not. I feel it is sad that women are pressurized into marriage for the sake of having children rather than for love and their happiness. Ellie:D

Well, it's just that most women here are not really exposed or choose not to be exposed to things other than life at home. 20 is seen as a good time for the girls to have children as they would be good mothers then.

Well.. Love is a funny thing, huh?

Yeah it is. For her case she found it in an unexpected situation.

In my society, unmarried women always get jealous seeing their friends having a happy marriage. I have this fren who is really pretty at high school. A lot of guys chased after her but she rejected all of them becoz they were not good-looking enough. Now 24, her bf is not good-looking at all. In my society, women are not so strong unlike in other more developed countries.

Here we still have a double standard! Men can do what they like and get away with it easier than women can. Women still want to get married in their twenties, after college, as it is much easier to have babies at that age and still chase them when you have to! Men, on the other hand, want to stay single as long as possible and do not consider being single in their thirties as a problem. Women here still get paid less than men, even for the same job!

Well, I don't know if we can start blaming God but women are in this type of dilemma because it's hard for them to have children later in life. And women are created weaker than men, that's why they are paid less.

We are not always weaker than men! Not all jobs are based on strength, and not every woman wants to have babies.

Hmmm... Yeah, I've met women who do not want to have babies because they are afraid of going through labour. It's understandable though.

Yes, understandable as well as taking care of a family is hard work! Much too hard to do alone.

Well ella1bella, mr.right is hard to find and sometimes they are only a few of them and if you search too long you might be too old then. How long must we wait for mr.Right?

Hey there PearlGrace, I really respect women who do not need men to survive. However, in my place, most are very dependent on men even the one with careers. It's a funny world I live in.

Hey there, it differs in the place I live in. Girls get desperate in the early 20's