can you marry a lover that has cheated on you with a friend or someone you know?

I feel that infidelity is the worse thing you can do in a relationship. I cannot stand to be lied to. Deciete kills me. There is no way I could have married my husband if I knew he had cheated on me. I would divorce him if he did it now. Marriage is a committment of a lifetime. You vow to yourself, your partner, family, friends, and even god that you are going to be committed to that person the rest of your life. If you break that committment then there is no longer the trust that a relationship is built on.

The fact that you can forgive someone for cheating and love her for her sincerity is great. A lot of us have big issues with jealously and can never get past that. You seem like you are willing to move forward and not dwell on the past, I commend you for that. I mean in the end we are all just human right? :)

if you marry this person, are you not setting yourself up for future disappointment? if the person that you love did it once, whats to say that the person wont do it again? i would run away fast - the other way!

I definitely wouldn't marry my lover if they cheated on me. Theres simple reasons of the fact that... if they done it once, they are capable of doing it again. I guess i'm just not as forgiving as you- or some people are. I always see the best in people, so when you do something wrong, it just leaves me feeling cheated and abused.

I think that what you are saying has some truth to it but I dont think I could follow through with doing it myself. I mean who is to say once you are married they will not do it to you again.Its just a chance I guess that you will have to decide whether to take or not.