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I'm an incredibly cheap person when it comes to spending money. I will not want a big wedding when the time comes, who wants to be in debt on their first day of marriage anyway haha. If I do have some sort of ceremony it will be very small and it will only include close family and friends. I'm not religious anyway, so the ceremony doesn't even matter to me- you can just give me the marriage papers to sign and then we could be off on our honey moon vacation, no hassle at all haha. That's a nice wedding in my eyes

ruby - hi. It doesn't make sense to have huge lavish weddings, spending so much for one day. After the wedding is over, most people come to the same conclusion.

I got married twice (that sounds so bad) and both weddings were small and intimate.

My first daughter got married on her 5 acre horse ranch and the reception was in the immaculate barn. We bought the cake from Publix, a grocery store with a fantastic bakery.

The food was basic, sandwiches and so on. I bought her wedding dress at a resale shop.

My second daughter's wedding was the full fling lavish wedding she wanted. I paid for only a small portion of it, I didn't have money at the time.

Her wedding day was like a dream, she put so much effort into making sure everyone who got invited felt special. She made a point to give the most important people in her life some way to be acknowledged.

For example - My daughter had her best friend, who was very talented, sing the bridal couple's wedding song. Our family's ancestory is Polish and my daughter researched online and included some of Poland's wedding traditions at the reception.

So, while the wedding was lavish, it wasn't overdone, because of my daughter's warm heart and her generous love. I've mentioned only a few things she did to make her wedding feel personal to everyone she invited.

With all that said, I think a wedding day shouild not cost a fortune.

I'll stop now, because there's so much more to say.

Okay, bye.

Hi ruby,

Mine was also very simple..I want to be very practical and maybe when we renew our vows after 10 years or so..LOL! I will prepare for that.LOL!
My Sister's wedding was quite expensive but they prepared for it...My husband and I helped a lot also in their expenses!

Our wedding was also on a budget as well, being an only child I had kind of hoped my parents might have put some away for me as they were earning pretty well LOL. But I was not that bothered really, we had a pretty good day for the little we spent! I am putting money away for my daughter and have been since she was born, I am not sure whether I will keep hold of it for the day she gets married or just let her have it at a certain age. She may not even ever want to get married.

hi Ruby our wedding was not very expensive, it didnt cost a fortune but our families did not contribute to the expenses coming with the wedding itself at all.
No one of our families was interested in our wedding and so we decided that our wedding would be a festive day for our friends who had been nice and caring to us in the not so easy times before we got married. We didnt celebrate our civil wedding much, we only had lunch with our wedding witnesses in a restaurant and then came the church wedding, we had 30 guests in same restaurant afterwards as the wedding was 4 pm and we had an early dinner then 5:30.

Nothing really expensive like cake and buffet as you mention. However as we lived in two different cities before we got married we had not merged our households together fully when we got married and so we asked our guests to feed the piggybank so to say. This money is still there to a huge degree and it is meant to be used if amything in the household needs to be replaced.

I have never been married, but most of my friends either spent little to nothing on their weddings, or they eloped and went to Las Vegas to get married. I plan on doing the same. I will with spend little to nothing on my wedding, or I will elope.

yeah me too, im a bargain hunter and i always want a cheap and budget one specially on our wedding. its my sister in law who did paid for everything but i only ask a very little amount for our amount. so this was super budgeted for the wedding.

we only rented our wedding attire. we just made our own decors on our reception. its a christian wedding so its all in one, the reception and matrimony is held in one place. my flower bouquet was also a personalized made.

i have a daughter, so if my daughter will get married someday, its still gonna be a cheap yet elegant and classy wedding as well.

When I got married it was overseas so things were done a little differently then in the u.s. got dresses had my makeup and hair done at home by a professional with video and photogropher taking pics but not while getting dressed of course. Then had a whole line of cars with horns beeping taking me to church. after church a nice little buffet diner at my husbands home then honeymoon. It was different somewhat romantic and cheap and very nice. For my daughters I think that I would want the whole shabang but at the same time I would respect their wishes as to what they want.

good day.. We're planing a simple wedding but we plan on going to Phuket Thailand for our honeymoon. Can't wait.

Wedding today is very unexpected. While I married i had spent about 5k for only the reception. Now with the high price of fuel and the lifesyle of community, the buffet style for the reception is use high cost. For one head dish of food we need to pay about RM3-6.
The time had change, world had develop.
All thing become expensive