Remembering Mom Today  

I sit here reading this with tears in my eyes. It is so hard when a parent dies and even harder when we see them go through so much pain. I have lost both of my parents and to this day I still miss them so much and I always will. Prayers to you Tess.

Hi Tess,

I, like you, had a wonderful mother (and father). I can't believe it's been 7 years since she left me. I was with her as she passed and I miss her so much. My father died about 26 years ago and I don't have any siblings so I'm the only one left of my blood family. (except my son of course)

We again have something in common. My mom was always there for me and I for her. She taught my class Home Economics back in grade school. She was always there to volunteer for the class trips. When she had a stroke, I was with her on the last day she walked down the steps of our porch on the way to the hospital. I was with her many times for the almost 3 years she was in a nursing home because she couldn't take care of herself. I feel ashamed I couldn't take care of her at home, but her husband at that time tried and I helped him for a week, but we just couldn't physically handle it. We just had too much of a hard time getting her out of bed, in the wheelchair, help her eat, back to bed...she even fell a couple of times and felt the best place for her was the nursing home.

I know how hard it can be at times when I still want to reach for the phone to give her a call to ask her opinion or tell her something important. Once we lose the ones we love, there's no getting back. My sis-in-law is near the end now and I don't know how I will handle that either.

Just remember, you will always have the great memories. Death can not take those away.

Happy MyLotting,
Char

Oh TessWhite I'm so sorry for your pain. I too lost my mom not to cancer but to an aortic anuerysm 9 years ago this October. Its awful and it hurts. I have had people ask me if it ever gets better. TO be honest Tess I do not believe that it does...I think that we just get used to the pain and hurt of having lost that very special person in our lives. I have been known to tell people that it was almost as if at birth my umbilical cord had not been cut...because suddenly after her death I had to completely learn how to live all over again. I hate it too. Life was so much nicer with her in it. She like your mommy made a day so much nicer.

So I too ask all of you members out there to take TessWhite's advice and enjoy what you have today. Because tomorrow may never come.

My blessings to you Tess. Should you ever need anything please do not hesitate to let me know

I'm so sorry this has been a very rough day for you hon. *hugs* I took care of my dad for 2 yrs when he was sick and he died in my arms on 4/6/88. He was my best friend. The first 2 or 3 anniversaries, birthdays, holidays, are the worst. Then they get easier as time goes on. Pretty soon every time a reminder day comes along you'll start thinking of all the good times mostly. The sick times start to fade into the background a bit. You never forget, and you will relive it from time to time but it does get easier.

You were meant to be there with her, thru thick and thin and finality. I will make you grow as a person. It will bring you closer to the ones you love. Death has it's horrible side and it's positive side. Just like everything else in this life, it's part of the balance.

Take care hon *hugs*.

I like you lost my best friend when my mom passed away. My mom had a massive heart attack on September 9, 2006. I didn't think I would make it through, but I need to take care of my father. I had wonderful parents and am glad of everyday that I spend with my dad, who has emphysema and a lot of trouble breathing.
My Mom was always there for me and I could talk to her about anything. We used to just sit outside in the swing and talk for hours. I had to quit working in 2005 and fight for disability(which I am still fighting), but it did give me the ability to spend that last year and a half with my Mom. I have a house right next door and got to spend time with her everyday. OH I MISS HER SOOO MUCH!!!!!!! I can't even bring myself to type anymore, it is upsetting me to much.

She is my best friend, to share and decide. Thats my best mom and she is unbeatable!I love her so much