how to reconcil the contradictions after quarreled with your lover?you acitive ?

i think that your statement on weakness is weak within itself. think about it: can yo realy judge the strength of a population based on the reactions and personality of one, or even a few handful? let's be realistic: these arguments is based on your current levels of understanding and communication. there's no reason to place the billions of other people that exist in the world in the line of fire as well.

When my boyfriend and I quarrel, we spend time alone and then we come back and talk things out. We don't want to get fired up and fight with each other so we try to just talk things through and learn where each other stands on certain situations.

I wouldn't say that its because women are weaker than men. They just handle things differently from us. If you always quarrel then perhaps you both have a bigger problem that you need to address apart form the little things you fight about. Indeed its not always a wise choice to vent out to a woman (specially f its not her fault) but at times it just gets too much and the pressure builds up an in the end you have to erupt. Now before this happens I suggest that you have a good long talk with your partner to come up with a solution favorable to the both of you. Talking is always good and it causes good things to happen if you ask me. You need not worry that its not the manly thing to do, if you really love her and you don't want to lose her then its the right thing to do. Of course all this is just my opinion on the matter.