How would you feel if........ (1)
By pillusch
@pillusch (1147)
Mexico
August 7, 2008 9:46am CST
Times are tough and money is getting tight. The first thing you do, in circumstances like that, is to cut down on unnecessary expenses. You live in Mexico, and your wife travels up to the United States to visit a son from her first marriage.
You talk together, look at the numbers, and you come to an agreement, not signed, obviously, but clearly spelled out. She is going to use the credit cards ONLY for absolutely necessary purchases, for emergencies. Again, you both agree, this is not a situation where one gives orders to the other, two adults saying 'This is what we are going to do.'
She comes back and has charged more than $ 300 dollars for knick-knacks, useless gifts, stuff like that. And I am absolutely furious. What would you do?
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3 responses
@Dragonofgold (509)
• Canada
7 Aug 08
Talk to her. Tell her how you feel and why. Do not call names or yell (although the yelling might be hard). Ask her why she felt that it was necessary to buy these things. Maybe she felt like she needed some little things to remind her of the days they spent together to sustain her until the next time she can be with her son. Sometimes people need a bit of a jump-start to help them capture and remember events they want to hold close to their heart. When you understand where she is coming from about these purchases, and you have effectively communicated how you feel about them, you can move forward. Then ask her how she is going to solve the problem created by this unnecesary spending. Put together a plan and work together.
@Chevee (5905)
• United States
4 Sep 08
I would say sit down baby we got to talk.
What is wrong with you? Did you not understand or you just plain didn't care about what we talked about. We made an agreement and you did the opposite of it. Now what do you think I should do? Please hand over the credit cards my dear. For now you will not have access to them until you prove to me I can trust you. Those gifts and stuff is useless take them back.
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
7 Aug 08
Talk to her about what she has done and ask her why she has done it. Tell her that this is leaving you both in a tight spot financially and that you both need to work on a way to get the money back for what she has spent. Ask her to look through the things she has bought and see if she can find ones that she does not much feel she needs and then ask her to sale them. This might help a little bit and I am sure people would be craving to own something from the United States. I don't mean to be disrespectful but I have heard that some things that cost so little to us cost a lot to you all and especially Jeans. I hope that you and her can these things sorted out. Good Luck to you! Have a wonderful day!
