Newly Weds  

The first year is always the rockiest but after that all will be well. Have faith and love, and believe in not only your newlywedded husband but also yoruself as the bride and his wife. Be the person you want people to see you as but to thine ownself be true. Never fight, or go to bed angry. Do not seek revenge against hurtful words but seek answers to his anger. Love completely and truly. Love is patient and kind but one must be patient and kind before the love you share can be so.

My fiance and I will also be wed soon. Good luck and I hope your marriage propsers! When you get to the altar, look him in the eyes and show him your soul, bear in in the glance and with each promise stare deeper and deeper. Remember this moment forever and treasure it, for each fight you have look back on that day and remember the vows you took. No conflict can set you apart, but it can only bring you closer!

Good Luck! Have a wonderful and lovely day!

The most important thing is to remember, keep communicating. It is very important that you do communicate to each other.

If you have any problems, learn to compromise. Some times it is good to meet half way. You could even make arrangements that you both and win and lose. For example. I wanted to buy a house. My partner wanted a motorbike. I didn't want him to have a motor bike. He wasn't interested in a house. So I said to him. if I can have my house then he can have his motor bike. To this day, I have my house and he does not have his motor bike. But if he does get it, I can't stop him because of the arrangement we had made.

Money can be another issue. Decide who is better handling money if you do want to save a nest egg. Have the person who is best to look after the money. But the person who looks after the money will need to give the other person some money that they can spend on themselves. After all they like spending money.

Finally, remember to take interest in each other even if it gets boring. Both of you need to commit to this one. Always listen to each other.

My partner and I are having a few problems. He is the one that likes to spend money. Even though he says that I need to look after the money, it is hard when he always takes over. The other thing is that when I talk to him, he is more interested in his computers or tv. Very rarely does he listen. He doesn't take much interest in me any more and he only thinks of his interests. I can see that if we do keep going like this, our marriage may fail. I am still holding a bit of hope there that he will change but I really can't see it happening.

Every time you hear a problem between a couple, it is always good to talk about those problems with your partner to make sure that it doesn't happen to you.

Keep that interest up in each other and keep talking and listening to each other and I think you will be fine.

I see some of the respondents have given you very useful advice, before me. First of all please do not think too much about success or failure. Always think in the positive terms. Marriage is a union of two souls, ablbeit from different background. Even if you know your partner before hand, it takes considerable time to adjust after marriage. It is a 'give and take' relationship. It is said that - "It requires two to clap". So if you both cooperate with each other, your life will go smoothly. Mutual understanding and trust is essential between you and your partner. It would be better if you treat your partner on equal footing and give her/him due respect and regards. You will need to know your partner better and thoroughly to get along with him/her. If you are patient and make your partner realise your needs and place after marriage, you will succeed.
My best wishes are with you.

In my opinion, so long as you communicate with one another, compromise and love each other, everything else is up to the course of life. Sometimes things just don't work out. I personally think you just shouldn't worry about it. Do your best and whatever happens, happens.

Hello soon to be newly wed! I have been married two years, and its not as easy at I thought it would be. It is great, but its also scary. You have money issues, spending time together, balancing a job and a home life, discussion of starting a family, you name it, any topic that applies to you. If you dont live together allready, you have that adjustment period to getting used to a new home and living with someone new. Our biggest problem starting out was money and a budget. Things got a little out of hand and that is why we fought. Just don't worry about things, talk them out....and use this as a HUGE tip: Never go to bed mad....whatever you do! Take the time and just talk, communicate, and you will be happy forever. Its worked for two years so far with us!