How do you forgive someone for betraying you?
By jaghead1179
@jaghead1179 (199)
Philippines
August 18, 2008 5:09pm CST
it's been two years now since i found out my bf was cheating on me. Nothing was serious they were just one night stands. After i found out i broke up with him but he begged to give him one last chance to prove that he can change and love me right. i gave him a second chance but i always blame him for his mistakes and until now i havent forgive him. How does one really forgive?
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Aug 08
Some people really do forgive. I guess they decide that the relationship is more important than the bad feelings. It is also important that your BF is truly sorry, promises that it will never happen again and sticks to that promise. But if you cannot move past it, it isn't fair to either one of you to stay in the relationship. Counseling might help if you can find a good counselor.
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
19 Aug 08
Maybe you are right. I'm not exactly the voice of experience on this one. But definitely if she can't get past it, it's not good to stay in the relationship.
@sourcherry (159)
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19 Aug 08
I think that i could forgive them yea but the thing is that my trust in them would go down well depending on what its was but I am the type of person to forgive but don't forget
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
19 Aug 08
It takes time to heal the wounds, still how many times would we embrace the pains and the hurts, because we love that someone. How many times would they cheat, and how many times would we understand them more. I know it's not easy to forgive especially when the person keeps on repeating the same mistakes.It doesn't seem right, if he really loves you. Sorry doesn't stop. I know also that were just human to make mistakes, but until when?Forgiveness is very hard, but maybe by accepting his faults,mistakes,who is he,what he is,everything about him we can accept and embrace it wholly. That's is forgiveness to me by accepting who he is. Loving him for what he is. Have a nice morning!
