How do you tell your aunt her husband is cheating on her?
By Fairygrl
@Fairygrl (348)
United States
August 29, 2008 11:46am CST
Well let me start off by saying every summer I babysit for my aunt... Shes been with her husband for over 20 years.....They have a home together and two beautiful children....Well now that im older my uncle thinks he can tell me things about his outside life....Yesterday he came home from work and felt the need to show me a picture of a young lady who he said was his girlfreiend on the side.. He said he had just came back from a nice dinner with her....Me being me I said I dont want to know anything about it... He always says my aunt is like an old lady she never wants to anything... now keep in mind she has a full time job, she has a seven year old and a ten yearold who are involved in soccer and dance class... So what time does she have to herself..? None whats so ever she always busy doing something work related and with her children....They have the perfect life and hes just a dog...Now what do I do... ive seen so many clues of him cheating...Do I tell her? I dont wanna be the one to break up this happy home so she thinks? And if I tell her how do I bring it about? Today is my last day babysitting these children and I feel to I pour this cup of bad news on her?! Someone help me... How do I tell her?
2 responses
@tinker_bel (297)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
this is really tough..i cant even imagine myself in this situation.
but my advice for you is go on and tell her. it is much better for her to know it from you or to learn it from other people. this is if you really know your aunt, because there are some people who would take it negatively and would even acusse you of trying to destroy her family.
so proceed with caution. read your aunts body language, is she aware of this extra marital activities of her husband or not? then you can gauge if you should really tell her or not.
but as i have said, it is much better for her to learn it from someone who im sure she can trust, and that is you. but if you are afraid to tell her, leave some marks or something wherein she can get an idea about what is bothering you.
goodluck to you!
@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
29 Aug 08
Well, you are mature enough to do what is right and wrong. Though, it would be very hard that all the blame will come in to you. Guys do cheat for some reason. They cheat coz they're asking for attention and care from their wives like children from their mom. They cheat not because they dont love their wife, but because they want someone's attention. Someone they could talk and share everything. They though, the lady so called his girlfriend is the one. You really do not know what's the main reason why he did that. But for what I really think, his wife doesn't spend or give the time he really wants or needs.
You do not have to tell your aunt about your uncle's betrayal. But, talk to your uncle about your view. Let him realize what will be the effect if sooner or later his wife discover that his cheating on her. Like the kids, they're so young. And tell him to be open to his wife of what he feel and what he wants to do with his wife.
