Since When..

I am glad that I missed the discussion about leaving kids in the car! That makes me so freakin mad! I can definitely be lazy about some things in my life but I am not going to hide behind some lame excuse as to why I am doing it! And I am definitely not going to choose laziness over the safety and well being of my children! I once saw a therapist who told me that my goals and expectations in life were too high and that I needed to lower them. I looked at her like she was an idiot and never went back.

I never leave the kids unattended anywhere, least of all in a car! I would not dream of it, not even for a second. It is a good thing to put your all into everything and I do try to give my all to everything, I certainly do the best I can anyway and I am not a lazy slacker, well do not think I am anyway!

You know we can look at degrees here. I'm not perfect, I AM human but I can be really slack sometimes...it's a terrible fault of mine but I do try and improve and be better. There are good days and bad days and all sorts of inbetween days. When I was a young single Mum, I did some stoopid, foolish crazy things and I paid a horrible price for my mistakes...to this day I work at forgiving myself. But that's not what I want to address here...if I may...I hope I'm not going off topic....maybe I'm moving sideways...anyway...I have to wonder of the mentality of people who not only abuse their children by failing to provide them with a secure environment then come onto myLot looking for people to say it's ok for her to do that and to validate her behaviour and then PEOPLE AGREE WITH HER!!! WTF?? I've seen this before when one of the members here would continually complain and whinge and b!tch about her children's behaviour and how they treated her but she would openly portray that she made them do the housework and their schoolwork while she spent all day on the computer or sleeping...if they didn't do her bidding she would scream and cry at them and punish them...probably all the while sitting at her computer, typing away...and dozens of members gave her sympathy and compassion and jumped on anyone who told her straight. These people are abusing their children and that is absolutely not ok! Why don't they realise that and get help?? And what's wrong with those other suck ups saying they are ok doing what they do?

Well when the 10 year old decides instead of sitting in the car looking after the others and goes offfor a joy ride in it with them instead perhaps she will re think on this one and hopefully none of the kids will get hurt in the process. Every one has their own way of parenting but I for one have never left the children in the car unattended. Ellie :D

Sounds similiar to that discussion i had about the baby left in the car while the Grandma shopped and didn't seem to care... Wherever i went with my 5 children they came with me even if i was gone for 10 min. they didn't like it but i didn't care and todays Parents seem to forget or care less about the welfare of a child..sometimes i think they are above the Law or feel it doesn't apply to them... If I was in charge have of them would be sterile to never bring another babe into this world..Rough maybe but definitely needed

I saw that discussion and all the responses. I had steam coming out my ears. I couldn't even type what I was thinking. So, I am glad you DID. My oldest is almost 28. Even that far back I did not leave my kids in the car, even for a minute or two. If I needed a break from them for an hour or two, I asked a neighbor to watch them, I did the same for her. I did not leave my kids at home alone until my son was probably 14. Even then, there were times I would have someone older come and stay with them for a while, if they didn't want to go with me. My feeling was that I had worked too damned hard to get those kids here, I was not about to lose them because I couldn't be bothered for all of 5 seconds to get them out of the car, or they might get fussy while I was trying to shop. If you are going to become a parent, you should be sure you take responsibility for them. Leaving them in a locked car, I don't care how old they are, is NOT taking responsibility. Yeah, I am the perfect mom, because I cared enough to do everything I could to make sure they were safe.

Yes I do give my all to everything taht I do, but no one is never perfect and some have to learn from their mistakes and some life lessons are harder to accept than others.