How do you discipline your children or how would you?  

Thank you so much for looking it up. You know when my six yo was 2 I did all the research in the world and came to the exact conclusion as this article and was firm and consistant and loving and it worked. I have found that it is not as easy to do as much searching with my 2yo. I have very little time. But I COMPLETELY agree with the article about the disipline and punishment and everything it says. I'm just going to have to buckle down and find a time out spot that works for us.
Thank you again for doing this search it was very kind of you.:-)

I definitly agree w the time out's, it's just that we haven't found the spot that works for us yet. She climbs out of cribs and playpins, the other rooms in my house she finds interesting and cant sit still for the time intended. But a friend of mine once told me that it's not about removing all interesting items from the time out spot, it's about seperating the child from yourself that is the most important thing. Shy of putting her in a small closet it would be hard to find a boring spot in our house!!! My 6yo went through this exact same behavior and I remember feeling like I wanted to rip my hair out and that she must be abnormal. I called in some therapists for her and when they told me she was perfectly normal, I went to therapy. I may be headed back there. I just have trouble w this stage and I don't know why. It is also hard to disipline a 2yo and a 6yo at the same time bc they require different things, different methods of time out, different levels of attention, and my 6yo just goes when I tell her. I have to reacustome myself to dealing with a 2yo. And my 2yo is a player. She can really turn on the sweets when she needs to. She will look at you and say "I love you mommy" (keep in mind she just turned 2 a couple weeks ago) and she will say "thank you mommy" "sorry mommy". UUURRRGGGHHHH. I am actually at a place where I love my kids so much it hurts. It hurts me more then it hurts them to disipline them.
Thank you for your response though, it is nice to read my own thoughts coming from someone else and to be reminded of the right thing to do. Sometimes in my day to day life I forget what I know and revert to the clueless mom that started out 6 years ago without the slightest idea of how to be a good parent!!!

You know, ironically enough, neither of my kids at age two have fear. I can yell to get their attention and my 2yo will just look at me and grin or not even acknowledge me at all!!! My time out usually is on her bed but I'M GOING to have to get a special spot that is just for this. And I have went through everything you said w my 6yo with excellent results. She is a great child now, very thoughtful and caring and she minds pretty well so I know for a fact that it works, it's just hard to stop a family activity to drag your 2yo away from the scene and then sit in the house all day to get the time out to work effectively. My problem is not the lack of knowledge it's the lack of willpower, which is exactly what is making the situation worse!!! But thank you so much for your response, it is true and I need to be the one to be consistant!!!

You commented that if you yell at your two year old she will just grin or completely ignore you. I marvel at kids intellect even a two year old, by grinning or completely ignoring you she has taken control of the situation, not you! She already knows that you are either not going to follow through with what you are threatning or what ever you do dish out she's not too worried about it.
Another thing that came to my mind, is this behavior attention grabbing and when she does get your attention, she grins and says to herself "That worked"?
Are you a stay at home mum?
Reason being she would have you to herself all day and then when your six year old comes home you probably spend a bit of time with her asking about her day or about homework.
The two year old might then feel left out and do things to attract your attention even if it is bad behavior.
Maybe a couple of mornings in day care would help, but there again I have know of a few perfectly behaved kids in day care but when they get home, they become tigers.
Just a couple of thoughts to help you out, but it all comes down to discipline and consistency.
Good Luck

I would like to distract her but it is hard when she is kicking her sister in the face. When I try to distract her from that she will go back and do it again. I'm afraid she has been more consistant than I have been. It is sad I know. I do know I will survive the 2s but I don't just want to survive them. It is a huge part of their life that I don't wand to miss and if I'm just surviving which is what I'm basically doing now then I will miss alot. I need to get this under control before it engulfs our entire lives. And I know it starts with me. Maybe I need to go back to therapy...
Thank you for your response, it is nice to be reminded of the things I knew a long time ago...Sigh...

I am one of those parents, but thats speaking of the big picture not just monetary gain. But I do agree about teaching the value of things and for them to think that they are lucky indeed. Thank you...

I know all about the bedtime cry. I first expierenced it around this time with my first daughter. I am not quite as frustrated though as I was the first time so that gives me hope that I can deal better this time around as long as I get things under control quickly. Your case is a toughie though cause starting a punishment consistantly for 3 different ages and stages is going to be difficult. It needs to be done though. I reccommend getting a copy of the nanny 911 book and following it to a T. The first time you slip up and give in and it all starts over and probably will be worse. I guess I need to think logically in my own scenario though and stop being a mushy mommy. Good luck to you and get the book, that or just call them and see if they will come to your house!!! You have to start now or it will be to late.

I don't personally believe in the rod method either. But I am finding that the different methods are difficult executing them in the middle of family time or an event. Gosh, this good parenting thing is tough. Thank you for your response!!!

Most welcome..it is a tough job bringing up children.It is a continuous learning process and no matter how many people advice you or how many books you read, at the end of the day, it is you and your child, and you have to listen to your own self and act accordingly i feel.

Ignoring her would be good except that when she's kicking her sister it's hard to ignore that. And when I try to explain to my 6yo to not to respond loudly to her it makes it worse, she doesn't get it. She thinks that Kendyl is getting away with it if we ignore it or that I don't care what sister does to her so when she is frustrated it would be ok for her to retaliate.... The kids get alot of attention, it's hard to imagine sometimes that they could need more but I know it's true. Thank you for your response...

Thank you, I think I will go a step further than luck and request some devine intervention!!! Yes, I definitly need to get a chair for time out. I have used a playpin in the past but anytime she is put in something with sides she sees it as her personal challenge to see how fast she can climb out of it. It is actually very appealing to her...She is a little mean monkey!!! My problem is lack of consistancy and I recognize that and will make the necessary changes to my daily life to give her the proper discipline...It is just soooooo HARD to figure out the rights and wrongs of good parenting!!! Thank you for your advise! All advice is needed and I will definitly be coming back for more on this issue soon! It's nice to have access to so many moms with good advice without ever having to leave my hosue!!!

Well, I'm not a mom but I was a foster parent for a few years and I ran a state daycare for ages...so I've dealt with my share of kids.

When Hubby and I were foster parents we got a 4 year old girl that had pretty much been doing whatever she wanted with no consequence. From day one, I told her if she got in trouble she'd go to the corner for 15 minutes. I repeated 2-3 times so I knew she understood. I also explained what she could and couldn't do so there would be no doubt that she knew. Well, within the hour she'd gotten in trouble for hitting another child...both were sent to the corners. She cried and stamped her feet but she stayed there. Over the next couple of days she started realizing that I meant what I said. A friend of the family came by and when she heard about it she told me that the child wasn't going to learn anything standing in the corner all the time...I told her that wasn't true, she'd either learn to mind me or she'd learn she has very strong little legs. After about a week, she was a changed child. Ppl couldn't believe this was the same kid. She minded, she did what I told her, she could go places and behaved like a normal child instead of running and screaming through the store. Most of all, she followed the rules of our house.

Kids need that structure. They need to learn at an early age that there is a consequence for every action. At the same time, parents have to be consistant...otherwise kids get the wrong message (it's wrong one time but not the next) and they can't understand what their getting in trouble for. They also need to realize that for the most part these are phases and the kids do get through them...kind of like building blocks for the next step. I hope this helps you in some way.

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