do you say sorry just to end a fight?  |
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 nothing hurts my pride more than saying sorry because i have to end a fight knowing that the other person did not understand yet what made me mad in the first place. in the middle of a fight, at the back of my mind, i always have this dilemma of whether to shut up OR go on fighting for my right LOL!
usually i back down, make a big sigh, and start talking reasonably--starting with an apology! i've discovered though that when i calm down, the other person (usually my boyfriend-now my husband LOL!) also calms down and starts to listen. that's the payment for my hurt pride, i guess:-)
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1.  ShellyB (3008) | 1 year ago |  I have done it but it has been because I am tired of arguing and prefer to have peace than my pride intact.
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 Rainegurl (1105) | 1 year ago | hi, ShellyB.
i like what you said about preferring peach than pride intact. there are times that i feel that way, especially when the argument is something that is so shallow, like arguing about something insignificant only due to short temper. sigh.
thanks for responding. take care! | |
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| 2. rrowenaa (608) | 1 year ago |  I'm a no-speak person during a fight. i want no arguments. If we're both cooled down then i would start talking. And i'll be the one to say SORRY if it's my mistake.
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| Rainegurl (1105) | 1 year ago | hi, rrowenaa.
yup, cooling down is important. i wish i have your discipline in not speaking during a fight.
take care! | |
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| 3. lou_66 (572) | 1 year ago |  i say sorry all the time to end a fight. even if i am not in the wrong i will apologise just to put an end to an argument. i will do anything for an easy life. maybe i should stop doing this and stand up for myself a bit more
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| Rainegurl (1105) | 1 year ago | hi, lou.
yup, it's dangerous to apologize even if it's not your fault. you can stand up for yourself but do it in a DIPLOMATIC manner so that you and your so-called foe will cool down.
see ya around! take care!
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 EAStanley (2031) | 1 year ago | 
Yes, I am the same way. I just want a fight over with. I will say or do anything. I also need to stand up for myself more.
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4.  lady_cayote (118) | 1 year ago |  I just say ok, fine, it's my fault...but no sorries because I know it won't be a heartfelt remark. I only say sorry when I mean it and when I realize I was wrong. Sorry is not an easy word for me to say.
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| Rainegurl (1105) | 1 year ago | hi there.
sorry really is not easy to say when it's not your fault, right?
thanks for responding.
take care! | |
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| Rainegurl (1105) | 1 year ago | hi, JDy116
yup, it's really possible that we are not listening anymore when our tempers rise. i think too that it is important to calm down and listen.
thanks and see ya! | |
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| 6. kayeshayne21 (4017) | 1 year ago |  yes i do. i say sorry to my husband when im the one who starts the fight. and so my husband does the same thing.
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| Rainegurl (1105) | 1 year ago | hi, kayeshayne
it sounds like your husband is a good man.
cheers! and take care. | |
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| 7. skbh12 (1162) | 1 year ago |  hi rainegurl!
whenever my boyfriend and i experience a misunderstanding he just lets me say the things i want to say. he does not really fight or argue with me. more or less he keeps quiet and stays calm. all he does is say sorry to me and says i love you next. he allows me to say my thing and cool down for he knows that it won't really take that long. he is very patient with me especially when arguements comes along. that is why i love him even better.
then when i realize my mistakes and for saying things that i shouldn't have said, i say sorry in return and give him hugs and kisses. hahaha!! he loves it when i do that. teehee.
happy halloween to you!
happy posting and happy mylotting!
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| Rainegurl (1105) | 1 year ago | hi girl!
i think that it's really important that during a fight, one calms down. it's good that your boyfriend does that. on the other hand, sometimes too, we should let out all our steam, just like what you do, so that we do not have feelings bottled up inside. that's unhealthy. it seems that you and your guy has a great relationship.
thanks and take care! | |
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| 8. pinkfloyd007 (328) | 1 year ago | Yes i do.And i am not ashamed of it.I just give room for myself,after all some one has to end it.Even though it hurts there is some pride in doing so. | |
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| Rainegurl (1105) | 1 year ago | hi pinkfloyd
i think i know how you feel
thanks and have a great day! | |
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9.  pryce_mbg (614) | 1 year ago |  sometimes i don't specially if i know that it is not my fault at all. i have a high pride but i say sorry to those people i got hurt.
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| Rainegurl (1105) | 1 year ago | hi, pryce
i guess that is important too. recognizing that you caused hurt and saying sorry.
take care and have a nice day! | |
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| 10. lhizacutie (55) | 1 year ago |  i say sorry if i believe and i think that it is my fault, but if it wasnt mine, I dont mind if we spend time arguing because I have to hear it from him that it was really his fault, and I'm not contented if he just say sorry just to end the fight, its not that I want to argue with him, its just that I want to resolve the issues and put things behind after solving it.
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| Rainegurl (1105) | 1 year ago | hi, lhizacutie.
you are right you know. it is important to get to the real issue and talk about it and resolve it, otherwise, it will its ugly head will resurface again and again.
take care and have a nice day! | |
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