Would you take your child to the sitter when they were sick?
By tlb0822
@tlb0822 (1410)
United States
November 13, 2008 11:41am CST
I'm not to thrilled with my fiances sister right now. Firstly no one called and told me that I was watching her daughter (3 yrs old) today, they kind of just dropped her off, and secondly she is sick. I have a 11month old daughter, who isn't sick and I would like to keep it that way for the holidays. So it upsets me that they would bring her daughter over here when she is sick. This child gets sick bad, to the point were they have to put her on steriods to get rid of it. And no one said anything about her being sick when they dropped her off, she was asleep so I couldn't really tell until she woke up. I'm just so frustrated, because now without trying to be mean I have to try and keep my daughter, and her seperated so my daughter doesn't catch what she has. I don't know whether i should say something to his sister about dropping her daughter off sick or not.
Would you send your child to the sitter sick? Would you tell the sitter that your child was sick before dropping them off? How should I handle this situation with her? Would you just come right out and say that she can't bring her over sick?
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4 responses
@lisa0502 (1724)
• Canada
14 Nov 08
That is not an ideal situation for you. I have had a similair experience. I was babysitting for a neighbor, they would always bring this kid over sick. I had 8 kids at that time. It got so bad that I finally said that I would not watch him if they would not take him to see the doctor. I would not send my child to anyones house if they were sick. It is common sense. I would just come out and tell her how you feel. You have to look out for your daughter.
@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
13 Nov 08
It is rude and impolite just to drop off their child without even phoning to ask yu to do them a favour. What is worse is that the poor child is sick and may give your child what sickness she has. Of course you should discuss this with both your fiancee and his sister - preferably at the same time. Point out that she would not want yuou to bring over your child to her if he was sick. This is basically taking you for granted. The discussion must take place in a peaceful and calm atmosphere. After all you will be family when you marry her brother.Try and discuss what options she may have in an emergency.
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
13 Nov 08
Boy do I know how you feel. I used to watch a friend of mines little boy. That kid was constantly sick. And she wouldn't warn me. She would drop him off and then when she called to check up on him she would say "oh by the way he threw up last night, but i'm sure he's fine" Or he would just always have a cold. Finally I couldn't take it anymore. In one month I spent $60 in co-pays to take my kids to the doctor because they got sick so much. So I told her that I couldn't watch him anymore. I had 3 kids and she was pregnant with her second so I just told her that I couldn't handle all 5. Maybe have your fiance say something. If you say something he sister will probably get ticked and then you'll have issues with her.
@rowantree (1186)
• United States
13 Nov 08
Wow, what illness needs steroids to get well? What does your fiancee say about his sister? Does he support her keeping her daughter away when she is sick, or does he not care? This is an issue you need to make sure you have your fiancee's support on first before saying anything to his sister. Good luck!
