How woman or couples actually planed to have kids?
By apples99
@apples99 (6556)
United States
November 22, 2008 5:30pm CST
I was just thinking about people and kids becuse we always hear about unplanned pregnancy and all those statistics, and it got me wondering how many pregnancy are actually planed vs unplanned, I would hope that when and if I have kids that it will only happen when I'm emotionally and financially ready, but of course I no that things dont always happen as we planed, but theres nothing wrong with try to plan ahead and trying to make sure your ready for things in life, well anyway how many woman or couples actually planed to have kids? just curious to know.
2 responses
@BubblyIan (750)
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23 Nov 08
I think the title of your discussion gives away your feelings about who is in control of pregnancy.
This is wrong. Both parents matter and both parents should be involved in the decision whether to have a child. Unfortunately more and more of the time it is the woman who unilaterally decides to have a child. Sicne the righjts related to children are not evenly divided in UK - the woman has 100% of the rights on conception, unless married, and only she can decide whether the man has any rights at all. This is wrong and should be equalised.
It is also wrong that only the woman can decide whether to keep or abort the baby.
it is also wrong that the woman does not even need to tell the father that he is a father. This is incredibly selfish and bad for the child.
It is also wrong that some women deliberately set out to get pregnant without telling the man.
It is also wrong that 100% of the financial benefits pf having a child go to the woman unless she chooses to give them to the man.
Join me in campaigning for equal treatment for fathers and hence a better future for children.
@apples99 (6556)
• United States
23 Nov 08
Hi there. I made a small mistake on the title, here's what I meant to call this post, (How many woman or couples actually planed to have kids) and I'm very much aware of who's in control of pregnancy god is, and of course its a mutual decision for persons or person to make before conception I'm asking a question strictly for observational purposes, this is my question is it possible for couples to plan to have children before there conceived, and how many couples actually plan to have kids, and I'm wondering if theres a statistical number.
@Humbug25 (12540)
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23 Nov 08
Hi ya apples
Well we planned our first one for sure. Our second just happened he certainly wasn't a mistake, well not on my part but my husband later told someone in his family that he was quite happy with our first as he was a lot of work and didn't want to have a second child and then I planned the third but he certainly didn't! I don't know what his problem was because it wasn't as if he ever looked after the kids or anything!!
