Is It Possible for a guy to love and accept to a single mom?
By carrine
@carrine (2743)
Philippines
8 responses
@checapricorn (16060)
• United States
13 Feb 10
I'm not a man but I am sure it is very possible, have few friends who are happily married with the man who accepted them whatever their pasts are...never a hindrance!
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@shamsta19 (3224)
• United States
27 Apr 09
Why not? The problems arise sometimes because a lot of guys don't want to raise other people's kids or get involved with "baby's daddies" in the relationship. Then it is hard for a single mom (or dad) to find the time to go out and do the things a lot of new couples usually do. In my situation now the woman I am seeing is a single mom but she also takes care of kids at work. I think she is so used to being with children, she cannot relate on an adult level. I noticed how she has adapted a lot of my speech patterns because it was all baby talk and it felt funny talking to her.
As long as she (the single mom) is sensitive to the guys needs, and he is sensitive to hers. And also as long as she doesn't try to force her life on him right away. It takes time for people, at least me, to get used to the situation.
@shamsta19 (3224)
• United States
27 Apr 09
Thank you. I try to be but unfortunately, I don't think all guys are like me. Sorry...
@michael_nonan (384)
• Philippines
10 Jan 09
i dont see why not. there could be single dad out there. the important thing is that you would enjoy each others company. just a piece of advice, dont bring up the paranoid mom in you on the first date. don't ask him this question until your really serious, which by then your answer will be answered already.
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@lisa0502 (1724)
• Canada
9 Jan 09
I was a single mom when I met the man who is now my husband. He also had kids at that time and since then we have had two kids together. So our grand total of kids is 8 kids. I know alot of men that do get together with single moms. My step dad also married my mother that has three kids. So yes it happens all the time.
@carrine (2743)
• Philippines
9 Jan 09
wow! you are blessed that you've found your lifetime partner,,, whew! when i was young, i said to myself, my kids wont experienced the things ive experienced when i was young. iam referring it to my mom and dad, we are the fruit of a broken family.. and there are lot of differences between individual who grown up with complete family than a broken family... i know there's no such thing as perfect.. and its normal that in a family there's a misunderstanding.. again my greatest fear happens to me, my kids right now has no dad... its kinda sad, but i was able to guide them and time by time, i did explain things, most specially for my eldest, because he's turning 14 years old these year.. and honestly iam having a hard time guiding him lately, hes kinda hardheaded and hes out of focus... what iam praying right now, is that he wont get involved with bad guys out there, no girlfriend as of now because hes still young, and im afraid of things, like he will get married early, or engage with pre-marital s*x.. i dont want it to happen to him, i want him to finished his studies first and get job. and have a better life ahead ... whew so help me God..
hehehehe..its hard to stand as mom and dad at the same time...
@kryzell (921)
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
I am also a single mom. But my son is only months old. After reading your fears from your eldest son...you actually me scared me :-) I don't even know if I am i the position to comment right now, but I still would love to.
After I realized that I am going to be a single mom, a few weeks after knowing that I am pregnant... I realized that I am not ready to jump to another relationship. However, I also learned that I shouldn't close my doors to that. It just takes a lot of courage though. For you, maybe you have surpassed the stage of pain and is ready to have a new love. For men on the other hand... I witnessed a lot who are willing to accept and love single moms... It really is up to you, if you are ready to love them, without comparing to past rlationships that didn't work.
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@SeishiroX (1092)
• Philippines
9 Jan 09
I don't think so. I'm not being definite, but then the thought of having a child is scary to me. So I guess, for now, I would shy away from having relationships with a single mom. For now, if I get older and mature a little... I'm not closing my doors though.
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@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
25 Apr 09
Yeah it's possible. In fact, i had a single mom for a girlfriend and she was the one who devirginized me. lol! I was 22 then and she was 25. I was immature then but i was able to accept a single mom so what more right now that i am a fully matured person? I think it just depend on how well both of you get along together. If you agree on most things and you find eachother interesting, why not right?
