Not who you thought they were.partners,husbands, wives,
By suzzy3
@suzzy3 (8341)
January 18, 2009 4:48pm CST
You have been living with this person quite happily and the kids are playing in the garden and a knock comes on the door.You have the table layed for dinner and are just about to call the kids,when "Is your partner here we need to speak to them".You call your partner and they come to the door and before where you know your whole world has been turned upside down.They arrest your partner for something they did twenty years ago before you met them,In all the confusion after atrip to the police station you are told your partner raped and murdered a girl,the proof being a dna sample.You see your husband on remand for the first time and you ask him outright did you do these things they are saying they say no,but their eyes are lieing.Do you stick by him and try to prove is innocence and refuse to beleave it,Or do you accept what they have done and wait for them,or just walk away after you have let it sink in.It is a question I thought was a bit of a dilemma and would be interested in knowing how you would handle this awful situation.{My partner and I are ok by the way}
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@snowcat46 (2322)
• United States
19 Jan 09
With anyone else, I don't know. With my husband, I would believe him. He doesn't lie, ever. I would stand by him through anything. I know he'd be innocent, so I'd do whatever I had to do to prove it.
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@miraclefreebies (3043)
• United States
19 Jan 09
Oh my goodness! That's a really hard question at first glance, but I have your answer. I thought about it and I just don't see how I couldn't trust that person again because I thought we were close and he didn't tell me.
Yeah I know it was waay before me, but if he was hiding something so HUGE from me all of this time, who knows what else he could be hiding. I would be thinking about my kids, and I would be always wondering what's gonna pop up next, how it's gonna affect my kids when or if it pops up.
I am usually a very forgiving person, and I will forgive him, but from a distance, mainly because I can't trust him like I should if we were to stay together.
@celticrogue (450)
• United States
19 Jan 09
I am the type of person that would accept what they had done, offer support, and wait for her to 'pay her debt to society'. But it would be hard to say if the love and trust would be there to the same extent as before. Although, if there was no acceptable explanation for the wrong she had done, no acceptable reason, then the story would probably change and I would be out of the relationship and walk away. If the explanation was reasonable and I could accept it, then I would be there for her.
My wife, on the other hand, if the roles were switched, she would walk away, no matter what the reason or excuse. End of relationship. No looking back. Cut and dried. Once you've broken a law, especially a major one, she does not want anything to do with you. Her best friend from high school married a man that does not have the best of values. He has been jailed for petty theft, drinks to excess, and has troubles keeping himself employeed (he was terminated from his last job due to theft). My wife tries to tell her friend that she needs to leave him, kick him out of the house, and that she would be much better off without him, but she has two kids from him and thinks that she would be worse off. She will not allow her husband to come over to our house with her and her kids. She doesn't trust him and thinks he is a dirt-bag. period. No redeeming social qualities. And she wouldn't change her mind, either.
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