friends can be lovers but lovers can't be friends?

@grace24 (1049)
Philippines
February 6, 2009 10:24am CST
do you believe in this?friends can be lovers but lovers can't be friends?is it possible that lovers can be friends?
4 responses
miccant
@miccant (154)
• United States
6 Feb 09
From personal experience no. Once you cross the line to lovers you can never go back. To much feelings involved to stand by as they go with others and you always wonder why it didn't work
grace24
@grace24 (1049)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
but what if your exboyfriend is your bestfriend before you have a romantic relationship with each other?isn't it is possible to bring back the friendship that you have?
Marty
@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
6 Feb 09
I can't imagine it. I have a friend that I met in college that happens to be a female. We hit it off right away and it was a close enough friendship that we canb actually say we love each other. But we're not in love. Well, There was a point for a very short time that I fell in love with her and was actually struggling with whether or not I should tell her. I didn't and am glad because as I look back on it now, if for what ever reason that relationship would have broken up, the loss of that friendship would have been horrible.
Marty
@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
6 Feb 09
I had to re-read your headline. Are you talking about former lovers can't be friends. If so, then I would say that's a fair assertion. But if you you're talking about current lovers, no. I think the best relationship is one that you can be both. You know how many times I've heard someone who lost a spouse say he was my lover, my friend, my companion... And I'm sure there are a lot of relationships that have broke up where trhey have still been able to be friends. I just think that's a little harder.
grace24
@grace24 (1049)
• Philippines
8 Feb 09
what i mean is if the 2 people have broke up..can both of them still be friends?
bimtri
@michaelxx74 (217)
• Cliffside Park, New Jersey
6 Feb 09
Yes I believe it , first she is just friend after that can be lover :) :) if each other want to be it. but sometimes lover never understand like friend, the lovers think is different than friend.
eubilisa
@eubilisa (211)
• Philippines
21 Nov 09
It's possible that friends can be lovers but it's true that lovers can't be friends because its a hard decision to make after all. How can the two of you be friends when you both know that you shared good and bad memories as lovers. There would be jelousy, guilt and discomfort so better not to be friends but to be civil with each other that's it no question asked.