Life of a stay-at-home dad
By dorisday1971
@dorisday1971 (5657)
Philippines
February 6, 2009 1:25pm CST
The husband of my friend is a stay-at-home-dad. He cleans the house, takes care of their children- bathe them, prepares their snack and drives them to school, cooks food, washes the dishes, washes and irons the clothes, does the grocery and marketing, and all the work at home. It’s his wife who has a regular day job. To augment their little income, they put a small store in front of their house and it’s the husband who oversees it.
Many of our friends find the husband of our friend too lazy to look for a job, while some say that my friend is just too in loved with her husband that she can afford to sacrifice herself from working just to give her husband and children a better future. On one casual and friendly occassion with my friend's husband, he mentioned that the reason why he can't a new job is because he has a pending labor case filed in court and he is waiting for the decision before he can go back to work abroad. According to this guy, playing the role of a stay-at-home-dad isn't an easy task but tolerable. What is more difficult for him on how to fight the social stigma or of getting rid of the negative connotation of a stay-at-home dad.
2 responses
@jimssaftytips (507)
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6 Feb 09
Whats the problem with a dad who stays at home? Have u thought she might have wanted him too while she works? Why is it people that u have a problem with this? Cuz if she dont then y do u?
@dorisday1971 (5657)
• Philippines
8 Feb 09
there is actually no problem with dads staying at home. . . In fact, this guy I have mentioned have every reason to be at home (as I mentioned). it's about the social stigma that I am trying to discuss, it's not about me having problems with it. Anyway, thanks for your response. God bless.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
6 Feb 09
My ex-husband played the role of stay at home dad recently. He really did a wonderful job at it. He did get bored at times because he works very efficiently around the house but overall he loved being there for the kids.
I don't think it's really anyone's business which parent stays home with the children(if either do at all). Every family needs to work out for themselves what will work best. Society does still seem to be unfair to the SAHD's though. If it's a mom staying home, no one really speculates on why. But when a dad does it, it's like there must be some secret reason because it's just so unfathomable that just maybe a dad would want to raise his children and that possibly a mother could earn a better income. Shocking, I know! 
Hopefully people will get over it eventually though, all that matter is that a family is happy and secure in their decisions.
Hopefully people will get over it eventually though, all that matter is that a family is happy and secure in their decisions.@dorisday1971 (5657)
• Philippines
8 Feb 09
I certainly agree with you and admire you for being honest. For as long as the family stays happy, then who cares if your husband stays at home. There are wives who can get better jobs than the husbands, so there is no reason for the wife to stop working and spend the day at home. Thanks for responding.
