The "One"

14 years ago i was so sure that a guy i had met was the right one for me but i never thought he felt the same way about me, not wanting to loose him completely we became very good friends and almost inseperable, we new everything about one another and were very close, 6 years into this friendship he had just come out of a long term relationship and we went out to cheer him up, got very drunk and ended up kissing, i thought it was just because he was upset and drunk so didnt push things further, we continued to have a great friendship and relationship together for about 12 weeks and then he met someone else, we had both said that we were nothing serious and just a bit of fun as i thought he was just on the rebound from his ex and didnt think he was serious about me, he started a new relationship and so did i, we have both married and had children and only last year did he admitt to me when we were talking one night that he had been in love with me all this time, i too love him more than anything but we had both left it too late through our stupidity of both not wanting to reck our friendship, we both agreed the best thing for us was to stay with our partners and not dirupt our childrens lives even though i want to be with him more than anything, we managed to stay friends and just before xmas he was going through a bad path in his relationship that has always been very one sided, his wife uses him a lot and gives very little in return, he was suffering wih severe depression and talking to me on the phone quite a lot about his thoughts and felings and i was trying to support him through this as she wasnt helping him at all, this turned into an argument between them and he admitted to her he loved me, she gave him an ultimatum, there child or me and obviously he chose his son so she no longer allows him to have a friendship with me which i think is rather sad of her as neither of us intended to take it any further.so my stupidity lost me the love of my life and my best friend in the end

Absolutely! I thought twice that I had found "the one" but turns out they didn't want me or think that I was "the one". Eventually I did find the one for me. He thought I was his one and only on the first date but I was so shy and nervous because of my past experiences I didn't realize he was it for me until many months later.

oh my that was how it was with my ex. I was sure he was the one for me and I told him that after several months of dating and he admitted he wasn't sure and needed more time and I said that was fine. Finally after 10 months he decided that I wasn't the one...while he loved me deeply and wanted to marry me, he didn't see us working out.