A Memorial Two Weeks Later??

Sometimes with a suicide, there are a lot of feelings to process. There is a great state of shock. This often happens when someone is killed very suddenly in an accident too. They often wait to do a memorial till people have had time to think a bit. I don't believe it is that unheard of either. I think funerals and memorials often occur at 2 weeks or even more.

Better late then never. The memorial sevice is to honor and celebrate her life, at least thats what I like to think. Suicide is so sad, there will always be feelings that something could have or should have been done. We just never know, we don't know someones pain or feelings. I think the memorial service is necessary to acknowledge her life and memory, just think how much sadder it would be if nothing was done or said about her.

Hi,Rozie,Im sorry for your friend. Better late than never.May your friend rest in peace.Take care.

I honestly do not feel like it is too late. It could be more about the good she did that a greiving of your hearts.

Hi Rozie dear! I do think there will be a lot of mixed emotions with regards to the memorial. But personally, I do think that it is not that late. In my experience when my mother died, the earliest invitation that we received for the memorial was actually 20 days after her death. And the last memorial we attended in honor of my mother was a month after. Maybe, we all have different views regarding this but what matters is that she will be remembered and be given the importance, respect and honor which she deserves. I hope and pray that she is happy now with the Father.
Take care and blessings to you!
lovelots..faith

Rozie, sometimes there are circumstances that do not allow for a quick memorial. I think the distance and healing will give people a little perspective. Maybe it is not right for all people, but it is certainly not right not to have a memorial. When I was social services at a nursing home we had a monthly memorial for residents that had passed. When they first passed I would put a drape on their door and a candle light in their room until it was cleared and ready for occupancy again. Remember the good things about your friend, I am sorry for your loss. People in pain, mentally, do tend to self medicate if they can get extra drugs, perhaps a different environment would have saved her from herself.

for family members, i think it would be better late than never - that is if that happened to one of my family members i can't really comment on anyone's behalf. cause we all have different ways of healing. sometimes a memorial can be a way to comfort someone's loss, you know, just giving your loved one the proper ceremony he/she deserves

I don't know... I don't think the group home or board and care home can be held responsible for her killing herself. As far as her doing drugs and selling them.. again that was on her. If the board and care home had got involved in time .. they might have thrown her out on the street with no where to live.. lots of places have a zero tolerance for drugs.

Lots of memorials are given 2 weeks and a month later in honor of the person who passed away. It is more to pay respect to the person, that they were acknowledged. She existed and there were people who cared about her.

No, I don't think 2 weeks is too late. She already had a funeral right? The rest is just out of respect. I think it would be better to have one late, than not at all. At least it shows they care and are not ignoring the fact she died. They aren't pretending she never lived. So I think it is fine.

I don't think it is their responsibility to give a memorial, but I do feel that it is nice that they are willing to do so.

Rozie37,it's just like what you said it's too late .Now that her friends have been not too sad about that,why mention it again,I don't think it will help anyone but will bring new hurt!
If the board and care is really kind to your friend, they should take action to help her give up drugs before she suicided herself.
For other things, it's maybe better late than never,but to one's life,i can't accept that words!
So long as the board and care won't do the same thing wrong in the future, it doen't matter whether they make a memorial for you friend.

I think the importance of the memorial is not the time how long it will be make after the death but the meaning. I think the memorial is to honor the departed saint and edify the living. So there shouble be an enough preparation. Don't care about the time so much.