Why do people get tuff when they date out of their race? R U SERIOUS?

Children should never be mistreated, dloveli, no matter what race they happen to be. The woman you refer to is guilty of poor judgment. It also could be that the kids are paying the price for a failed relationship. I see it happen all the time where kids from a previous relationship are made to suffer when the relationship goes bad. I think it is to be expected that when people are in a relationship with someone from a different culture they tend to want to become a part of it to some degree.As for white people who talk and act black, it does happen. I've seen more than a few who carry it off even better than I can. Most of the time it is because they have had close contact with black people for most of their lives as opposed to trying to be black.

I do agree with you, it seems a lot of people lose their own identity when they are with someone not of the same race or even religion, it is never right to lose your own identy, you are who you are and just as much as you are accepting the other person they should except you. I am white my husband was mixed and considered himself black, like mixed black and whites do, he was also from the caribbean, I learned new foods I thought were delicious, and some of the music I liked and some I didn't etc, but I never stopped being white, I still ate my foods, listened to my music and etc. I knew who I was I had an identity. we are divorced for many years now, and I still eat the food and listen to some of the music because I like it. I am now with a jewish/arabic man, I love his food he has introduced lots of new foods for me, and he eats my food, we share our cultures, I go to the synagogue with him, I love Judaism but I am christian and always will be. He is who he is and I am who I am with both have our different cultures and we both complement each other.

What ever happened to bringing the best of both to a relationship. What about the girls who talk very well and then all of a sudden start dating interacially and become totally ghetto. What about the rest of the african american culture that doesnt talk like that? These people have taken on an identity they dont know about except for what their mates tell them or they have learned from music videos. BRAVO!! I am a mixed race woman and my kids are also mixed raced and I have to tell you that it just drives me NUTS when I see ppl doing foolish thigns like that...It really SHOULD BE blending the best of both and if more ppl would actually do that then maybe, just maybe there wouldnt be as much hatred between the races...

never made since to me that someone would change their ways just for going with some one from an other culture. Nope I wouldnt do it. and the way some talk now isnt what the originals talk!

Be kind, these girls have thrown themselves into a completely new community and are trying desperately to fit in. They will mature with time and either find a way to fit or drop away from their new situation. Like all of us as we experience more we grow and change. I went through this in my marriage, I didn't change races but i changed my social economic group. I never really did fit in, but created my own place and stopped worrying about it.

I think they're trying to please their partners.. when they behave like that... they feel they will be accepted in a social level in their partner's family... but that is wrong.. you should keep your culture and treat all kids equally... they are your own kids for gods sake... gosh....

How about maybe they are crazy? You do not change who you are because of a relationship. Yes, a marriage or relationship should enhance who you are, not change it, or worse yet, turn you into someone who talks trash and forsakes their real heritage.