Does your life have to stop because your partner chose not to be in it?

Seperation is normal in the world today, if everyone made a big deal about how they can't go on without that one person we would have even more hate in the world and more suicide. That sees like enough of a reason for divorce to me. But then again I am going through a divorce myself and it is so much fun to watch my husband squirm and say how much he can't life without me. Gee, I wonder he is one that would kill himself. But anyways, moving on and being happy with someone else isn't something to be afraid of. Would you rather your daughter see both of you happy with different people or argueing daily and fighting all the time together?

You are not living life to the fullest if she is not in it and neither is she. talk abot it. Ten years of marriage can bring about some needs for change. You or your wife do not have to feel slighted because you need space. Talk about the underlying issues. Don't just be reckless or "testy" about it. Think back. When did it start--this pulling away? How can you fix it or live with it? In any case do not do the tit-for-tat thing. Ten years is a long investment. Make whatever change that is neccessary, but do it mutually. Toget does not always mean in your face.

why not ask her about it. If that is her day off ask if she would like to go out for a date that day and spend time to reconnect and fall in love all over again. I think sitting down and talking or asking her for a date would help.

No you are absolutly right to do this. The one thing you need to gaurd against however is are you doing it because you want to or is it done to spite, or get even with her.
That trap is very easy to fall into and if that is the reason then both of you are running away from each other as fast as you can.

On that one day that she has open take her to breakfast or whatever you need to do to be alone with her and talk this thing out. While it is normal to do things apart it is quite another thing to prefer that. If she has a choice to do things with her friends or with you and always chooses her friends there is something very wrong with your relationship. For you to then turn and do the very same thing may make you feel better but it does not solve the problem and eventually you both will wonder who that person is that you see once in awhile. That is never good for a marriage.

If you don't know the reason why she does these things you need to find out. It will be something you will have to face sooner or later. The sooner the better as it may very well save your marriage.