help
By Mommy90
@Mommy90 (2)
United States
April 29, 2009 10:23am CST
My soon to be husband has gave his there for a computer game. When he wakes up he goes straight to the computer. He don't want to get off of it for anything. He even gets mad when I ask him for help with our almost 5 month old daughter. I've tried talking to him and everything but nothing works. We always fight about it. I feel like it is tearing the family apart. Any ideas on what I should do?
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@pkmaster109 (177)
• United States
30 Apr 09
Whenever I get obsessed with video games my girlfriend just ignores me. After awhile the silence seems to get to me and the game gets kind of boring. I can't guarantee that this will work but it generally seems to be true for a lot of people that the second they feel that they aren't wanted when they generally should be, they tend to seek the attention. Either way video games get boring after awhile so worst case scenario, he will get bored of the game eventually. I hope this situation resolves itself.
@Mommy90 (2)
• United States
30 Apr 09
I have already tried that. I tried staying away from him for a whole day and when he finds out that I am mad at him then he gets mad and starts a big fight. Everytime I do anything to try to get his attention then he says if you are going to act like that then pack your stuff cause your gone. He has kicked one thing into me before and the last big fight we had he pushed me on the ground. He scares me so much when he does this because I'm always scared he will do it to our little girl when she gets older. There has been so many times I have wanted to leave but I have no where to go but the streets and I cant take my little girl there. neither of us has a actual job. i work selling avon but that is not that much. his mom and family buys everything for us and the baby. i dont want to take the baby from them because they have been there and buying her stuff since the day they found out i was pregnant. He said that i am not taking her if i leave but he dont even want to hold her. When im in the shower and she cries he will come and get me because he dont want to fool with her. if im gone and she cries he will just let her lay there and cry. i dont want to say this but i dont even trust him with her anymore. he gets mad when i have a doctors appointment or something i have to be at because he has to sit in the truck. he even gets mad when i want to call or visit my own family. he hates my family and i dont see why. i feel like im in a prison. he tells me what i can wear and how to do my hair. i cant wear makeup or even get my nails down, not to mention i cant go to a tanning bed either. I just cant be a girl anymore. if i change one thing or do something different to the way i look or even do my hair for one day he wont let me out of the house and he always ask me who i am dressing up for. if i tell him i want to lose a little weight or tone up he ask me who i am trying to look good for. i just dont know what to do anymore. if i talked about making an appointment for my teeth or eyes he tells me that he dont want to sit in the truck all day and to deal with it.
@laglen (19759)
• United States
21 Mar 10
Think really hard about this before you get married, this will be your life. Is thos what you want?
@scja16 (322)
• Philippines
21 Mar 10
I do not know if already tried this but it is worth trying it again. Try to have a small talk with your partner and try to be honest. Find a way to communicate without ending up fighting against each other. I really hope that this issue will be fix, I myself love playing games but I control my time and I make sure that it wont affect my relationship with my wife and work. Let him play but tell him to minimize the game hours or make it to a point to lessen the hours stage by stage.
God bless
