Young Parents

I really think that this is going to vary by person and country. Would I want my daughter to become a mom at that age, well to be honest no. There is so much of live ahead of you at that age and being tied down to a child is going to limit you on what you can do, places you can go and your experiences in life.

I can not say that you made a bad decision as you have to know what is right for you and your life. I am sure there will be times that you think you should have waited, while there are times in my life that I wish I could have had mine sooner.

Good luck and enjoy the journey you are on, do not worry about what Jane would do, do what works for you and what is right for your life. There is no wrong in this, it is what works for you.

quite interesting . but yes it is about responsibility of upbringing a new life.
they say a girl of twenty odd is better learned than a lass of less than twenty!!
the yester years have gone.today in this competitive world one needs to have enough resources for the upbringing of a family and to cater to their needs!!
happy mylotting.!!

I was 20 when my first son was born, my husband was 22. I do not think that was too young. BUT, times were very different then, 20 was mature. That was 40 years ago. Take a look atthe genreation today, thye are barelycapable of taking care of themselves, no less a baby.

Hi there Syndarin..how are you today? For me becoming a mother at a young age is not a bad thing, what makes it bad is that some mothers or parents are not that responsible enough handling their children.. I became a mother at the age of 25, and yes, its very difficult to become a parent..what's alarming this moment that there are very young mother's about 13years old and they dont really dont know what are their responsibilities being a parent..i think it's better to become more adult, have stable job enough to raise a child and be more responsible being a parent.. happy mylotting

I don't think that age really matters that much, it more depends on the person. I am not saying that I think it is ok for a 13, or even 16 year old to raise a baby, but if a person is 19 or 20 and mature enough to raise a baby that is totally different. I have seen many mothers that are older and do a worse job raising their children than some of the young mom's.

I had my daughter a 2 weeks before I turned 19 and I am managing fine. My daughter was unplanned and when I found out I was having a baby I wasn't sure I was ready. Honestly I don't really feel like I missed out on much in life, if anything my kids have made it better. I am thankful everyday for both of my kids. I don't think age can tell you when you are ready to be a mom, I think that you are ready when you are ready to put someone else before yourself 100% of the time. My kids come first to me and always have.

There is no right age for everyone. Each person is different. Some people are ready when they are 20, many are not. People see one or even a few people who had children too young and then generalize that no one is ready at that age. My sister started having children at 20. She was ready. She is a great mom. I did not have any children until I was 30. I was not ready when I was 20, or even 25. Everyone is different and it is not fair to say who is ready and who isn't. Each person needs to make that decision for themselves.

What I have learned to do is ignore the comments of people whose opinions don't matter- like strangers who stick their noses in where they don't belong.

Hello,

I got married at 19 and we thought it was too early to have kids so we waited about 10 years before our fist daughter. We wanted to evolved as a couple before entering that type of responsability. I personality think that 19 or 20 is still to early. Wait until you are atleast 25

I think that it is different for everyone. Some people have a lot growing up to do at that age and some don't. I had my son at 19 and I am very happy to have had him that young. I like that knowing that when I am 40 I will be done raising kids.

yes,I am not sure wether I have prepared to be a mother when I am 19 or 20. I think if I marry someone and be a mother,something must be different and I must care and be responsible for my child. Also,I need much money to raise my child.There are many problems.So I think maybe it is not proper to have a child when we are too young.

I think it truly comes back to the mother and her maturity. I don't believe we should base mothering skills off of a number, but more so a level of if they can take care of another life. It has already been said on here that teens and young adults can barely take care of themselves today so how do we as a society expect them to take care of another child? It was normal for younger women/children to have older male's children. It's our history, so yes I think it can be done but it goes back to maturity... My opinion is that if you can provide for yourself plus some then I would say you will be just fine. But if you can't get by on your own or rely on your parents to take care of you then you should wait.
I'm 24 and had my daughter last year. Becoming a mother has been a blessing but a also a challenge. Best of wishes in your journey of motherhood!