Death of a spouse – hard to deal with

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My husband of just over 50 yrs., passed away 3 weeks ago tonight [5/21/09]. My house is so unbearably quiet. But I just want to address the men here for a moment: you need to prepare in advance for what you want your wife and children to know, after you’re gone. I had told my hubby to make a note book with all of the things financially that he thought I should know. He was old fashioned and just wanted to ‘take care of me’ and not have me be worried over it all. He did that to a point, but my daughter has had to follow up, and get into the check book, and back statements to see what all was auto debited from our account. I advise all of you to sit down and discuss death. Don’t ignore it, but get things set in the event that something happens to either of you. And if you can at all – get with a funeral home and set up your arrangements the way YOU want them. This is so important. I will end this now, but hope I have helped just one person, prepare for the future, in this situation. A lot of funeral homes will take advantage of grieving spouses and children. I did not know till we got our arrangements made that the opening of the grave is “double in price on the weekends!”