What one thing really irratates you about your family?
By celticeagle
@celticeagle (189838)
Boise, Idaho
May 30, 2009 10:57pm CST
Don't we all have one hidden gripe about our families? Isn't there something that just rubs you the wrong way sometimes? For me it is leaving things where they fall. They don't pick up anything. Then afew hours later they come to me to find their stuff for them. Hello. I have told them a million times to pick a place, put their keys or whatever in the same place each time. Then you don't lose them.
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Jun 09
Do you ever just want to slap them up side of the head and say: "Get a grip on reality!!" ?????? Gheez! {Not literally hit them but figuratively speaking ofcourse!]
@gypsywoman344 (214)
• United States
5 Jun 09
Good topic. Hat really irritates me about my family is that when it comes to the world outside their sphere, they just don't have a clue. They make judgement without having ever lived farther that a 20 mile radious for generationgs. A couple have recently moved farther away but still take their small town, farmer, 50's attitudes with them. They don;t look at outside situations with eyes wide open but rather CHOOSE to focus on what THEY percieve to be the truth.
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Jun 09
Ya, some people are so closed minded that it is just pathetic to see them in action. There is so much more to life too. It is sad. Do you think they will wake up at some point? Young too, huh?
@gypsywoman344 (214)
• United States
6 Jun 09
My father and mother are80+ , Mom is pretty open to at lest "looking" at the "whole picture. My father, on the other hand--do you know Archie Bunker? Can you imagine him and adding the fact that he didn't drink or smoke? Scarry isn't it.
Take it as far as him being mistaken for him in ariports.LOL I hope you know who Archie BunKer is. Or that whole thiing would be meaningless.
My brothers are trying but still have many prejudices. But you have to remember the roles of men & women were there for a reason, There were very few people of color of any kind (eccept Indians and most of them were good cases for substantiation of the old addage about "Indians and firewater" ha ha. No one really made a point of discrimination. They went to school with us,, played on the neighborhood baseball games, worked side by side with all. We had migrant workers come in but they weren't looked down on. They were what they were and were respected by the job they did. It was just time for the pickers. They went to the fair like the rest of us. Not much association just because everyone had their own place in this world. Not really as a put down.
When my brothers got out in the real world, VA., Fla, etc. they were in shell shock. The media did more to turn all their feelings from what is into full blown biggetry.
I don't know why my world view has ALWAYS been different. Maybe because I read more, or maybe because of my "fix it" personality, but; I do understand how they got to be the way they are. My sister Vick, the youngest has the same personality but had never lived outside the area,therefor, she lays somewhere in the middle. My sister Paula , a newsreporter, sherriffs dept rep, and now a legislator in the Va. st. Legislater has a much wider view of the world. She still struggles with the old views but voted for Obahma. Ha Ha.
Sorry for rambling on but it was just kind of flow writing and I think you can see what I am saying. I understand but I can't live with it. I have half of my grandchildren that are mixed , and one (or maybe two) are gay. Obviously I taught my children differently. Ha Ha.
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Dec 09
Some people find it easiest to cope being oblivious. I just have panic attacks and social anxiety. They sound like they live in a pool of denial. Ahh!
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
31 May 09
yep for me it is the same thing, I am disabled and I cannot pick up after my son instead my son is responsible for keep stuff off the floor because I just can't do it yet he doesn't listen and won't clean.
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Jun 09
That must be frustrating for you. I hate it when they just let things set where ever and they even step on stuff. Oh, that is so irritating!
@gemini_rose (16264)
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31 May 09
With mine it is the fact that they are just messy and do not seem to care about their surroundings. I am the only one that gives the house the intimate clean it needs and yes everyone else helps but they only do the surface clean. By this I mean they pick up the mess on the floor but they just are so messy. All I want is a really nice looking house, my friend has the same amount of kids as me and her home is beautiful, compared to hers mine just looks like a doss hole.
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Jun 09
Messy and clutter just drives me nuts. I hear ya. It seems like I have a desire to leave and start over elsewhere or just have a place I can go to that is mine and is nice and clean and tidy. Like a fantasy home or something.
@gemini_rose (16264)
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2 Jun 09
Oh definately, I often imagine myself having my own clean mess free space! Its a lovely dream!
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Dec 09
I do the same exact thing. Never happen but what a dream, huh?!
@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
2 Jun 09
CE-
I think we all have those. Mine aren't hidden though. We have discussions about the things that bother us, or are our pet peeves and we do the best to avoid them. For example, I'm notorious for leaving things on top of the microwave. My husband may remind me, and other times he just lets it sit until I pick it up. I'm the same way with his stuff. I just leave it. I've learned nagging isn't the thing that works, if he wants it he'll put it up. That said, we recently moved to a new way of cleaning the house that is making things even much easier and proving to help get things put up in their spots.
I think for my children, who are too young as of yet to know, they are simply learning by example how we take care of things. I think that is the best way to teach. I also don't get too upset over their room. If it becomes too messy for me to walk through I do a quick clean. If not, I let them have fun. Our son is only 2 1/2 so there are always toys out.
Namaste-Anora
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Dec 09
I hear just what you're saying. I remember always worrying that someone was going to come over when things were at their messiest and I would be mortified.
@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
3 Jun 09
LOL. I've got the patience of Job so I'm told. Nah, there are times where things aren't done "my way", so I just do them. It is just easier then any sort of discussion on it. Though, as I said before, we try very hard to discuss those things that bug us. Like me leaving the dishes to soak, or him leaving his books all over the place. Namaste-Anora
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@xoxcharityxox (567)
• United States
2 Jun 09
My extended family bother me and I usually try to avoid them. They all tend to gossip about one another and meddle in eachother's lives. I just prefer to see them only when I have to because I just don't want to be involved. My closer family is great though. I do wish my husband would be a little better at picking up after himself though. Me and my three year old try to set a good example, but there's always clothes left in the floor or a mess for me to clean up somewhere.
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Jun 09
I just hate those kind of people. I would stay away from them as much as I could. Kids and their messes. Gotta love them. We do it for them and they never learn though.
@faisai (1138)
• Hong Kong
31 May 09
My mom like to start over and over again on something I did tell her millions of times what I have decided to do. It is like she is always thinking my decision is not sound enough where hers is whole lot better and is the only perfect solution. I don't deny that sometimes she has brilliant idea but more often, it is plain worry of nothing.
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
31 May 09
Maybe you need to discuss that with her. Maybe she doesn't realize. Moms are like that though. They want the best. Some think their way is the only possible good way. I know. My mom was that way too. Not on everything but alot.
