My friend is having an affair with a married man

You know what, you've already done your part. You have reminded your friend of the complications and implications of her affair and I think as a friend, that's everything you can do. See, when a person, especially one who is inlove, sets his or her mind on something or someone, it's very difficult to talk some sense into them. As they all say, love knows no reason. It's hard to suppress feelings and I think, your friend is very much in love with the married man, hence, she's turning a blind eye on reason. Rest assured you have done your best to help her. She's old enough to know and bear the consequences of her actions. Sooner or later she'll come to her senses. If not, something will come up that would make her rethink her actions. For now, I think what you can do is pray for her. Ask God to give her wisdom and knowledge and guide her.

You are trying to change a person's heart and mind. This can only happen within them. I think I would pray for her and the man and the man's wife. Remember that the man is cheating too. I do not think I would want to be the one to bring this all out into the open. I am reminded of a scripture in Mark 4:22* that there is nothing hidden that is not revealed. I have always preferred to let things be revealed on their own rather than get in the middle of something like this. If the timing is wrong the results could be disastrous for everyone involved.

Mark 4:22 (King James Version)--For there is nothing hid, which shall not be manifested; neither was any thing kept secret, but that it should come abroad.

Hi Ingkingderders,
I think i understand your feeling. You really think for your friend, you think a married man does not worth for her to love, right?
But i don't thinking getting too much involved in this will do any good to you or your friend. Just like other's saying, you already done your part, and i have to say you've done your best. Let your friend decide what she want, once she made her decesion, just bless her and wish her all the best. That is all you can do dear.

I can understand your worry towards your friend, but I think you have done your part. As a last chance, you can write an e-mail to her on what you want to say. Then leave it. She is not a kid, she has sense to think and decide on what is good for her.Don't interfere in others personal mattes after a limit.

It's her choice in the end. At least you've been a good friend to her and you've told her how you feel about her relationship with this man. So now, all is up to her to decide. She's wasting her time and life on something that's only temporary whereby she could have had a decent relationship with someone that is free and totally available.

Hello there! I have a friend like her too in the office and she has been with the man for one year, the man has a little boy too. We have all talked to her several times but she always says that she will leave him very soon. But she has not left him yet because she says she loves him very much.

One day I told her that she will need to get married with another guy soon then what will she do! She is concious that she will have to get married but she also fears that she will continue to love the man with his baby too.

All these are part of life I suppose. You have been doing your work by talking to her just as I did but the decision rest solely on her because it is her life. We can be preoccupying for them a lot but they do not want us to interfer in their life so we cannot do more.

If you send a mail to his wife the situation can turn very bitter for you as firstly your friend will hate you for this and secondly the man will think you are the sole person to break his relationship with his wife while we all know that you were only concious of the problem.

So my friend, we have done our work by talking to them now we need not interfere in their relationship no matter how bad it is. Else we will be the sole guilty at the end.

Well, its good that you have adviced her that what she is doing is definitely wrong. But since its her life and no one can fix it other than her. . you can just let her do her thing and discover/suffer the consequences as well. . .= (

Hi Ingkingderders, what I can say you've done what is a friend for. But your girl friend has her own mind, and life to make. It's her own look out, and she knows the consequences of her actions. When you blinded in love, you can't see right. Even you open her eyes, she's still blinded with what she feels. A friend can just be concern,listen,give advices, and suggestions. But minding her own business and private personal life I think it's none of your business. It's enough you are there, being as a friend, spending time with her,and accepting her as a friend. It's all up to you how long would you be there and understand her more. The question is would you be a friend, or you want to loose the friendship if you minded her business? It is enough you can stand still with her, no matter who she is, and what she is your around her as a friend. Have a nice day to you!

You have tried your best, I don't think you should blame yourself anymore.

Your friend is too stubborn, guess she understood that she should not do that. Feels like she is trying to run from reality. She kept on giving herself excuses for not leaving him. That's too bad.

I hope your friend will wake up asap.

I think you are doing the right thing somewhere,because this affair will certainly lead to a destruction atlast, this is very true that she wnt talk to you after this may be even break the relation with you but i think you are doing this for her good and she will realise this very soon or later in her life.I think you should send a mail to his wife asking not to be harsh just to take part in it and seprate them, because this aafair will destroy 3 lives plus if the man has childrens then their lives too, the man is betraying his wife so what are the conditions that he wont betray your friend later.he is not a true person to be with.Try to explain your friend this.