I have been moms caretaker shes driving me nuts!

oh im sorry to hear that it sounds like your doing your best. I think you need someone to help you look after her as it sounds like its too much for you to cope with on your own. It is understandable that your patience is thin but just try your best and try to find someone to help you . Thats really all i can suggest sorry i cant help anymore.

my sympathies. you've got to realize that at some point your mom is going to need round the clock care, something that will be especially hard on you. as hard as it is going to be, you might want to start giving thought to either having someone come into your (?) home to help or simply put her into a nursing home for alzheimers patients. alot of parents do not wish to be a burden to their children so i'm sure that your mom would understand it if you were given no choice but to put her in a 'home'. you cannot let your health become affected by all of this even though it sounds like its already started to do just that. you will need your strength for later for your mom, like daily visits, etc. i dont mean to sound cruel but i've known some people who had to put their parents into homes due to the alzheimers disease progressing beyond their being able to care of their parent. its a depressing thought and a long road to travel, but you're not alone. talk to your mom's doctor for the best advice on caring for your mom and keeping your health in good shape. best of luck to you. you're in my prayers that all works out ok.

The best way for you to take care of your mother is to research homes that specializes in alzheimers. Although it is very difficult to such a thing this is where it would be best for all concerned. If your mom has become a "burden" and you are worried about her and not getting sleep then it is really that time. Putting her into a home does not make you a bad person it just says that you love your mother so much that you want her to live her life to the fullest. When researching for a home make sure you can stop in any time day or night that you can take her out on trips that she can spend the weekend at your home and that you get guardianship over her. This way they have to go through you before making major decisions about her care. Educate yourself about alzheimerz and be prepared for anything they ask you. I have worked with alzheimer individuals and let me tell you I absolutely loved it, but doing it 24 7 would run me ragged and I would definately go insane.

When you promised to take care of her didnt mean that you would be with her 24 7 it means that you will do everything in your power to make sure she is able to live the quality of life she deserves. Even in a home you can be very actively involved in everything. I wish you the very best and remember you would feel alot more guilty if she where to get out of your house and get lost than to have her somewhere that she can be watched 24 hours a day and kept safe. Good luck my friend.

Hi, I am so sorry to hear about your mom's and your situation. You need extra help really or else you will get sick yourself and that would be a problen. I was taking care of my mom too when she got sick.
There were extra help at home and we wound take turns spending the night with her when she can't sleep and all the things the patient would feel and you can't really comprehend but just being patient and patient enough.
Well, I just wish you can find ways to unburden yourself.

i promise myself i will take care of my mom when she gets old. I know i will be able to endure everything with the help of my siblings and of course guidance from the Lord. In your situation you should need help or find someone who can take turns in taking care of your mom then. good luck.

I have been mom's caretaker and she's driving me nuts....

Hi tamron, It's apparent that you have a big heart and a lot of love for your mom to want to take care of her in her condition. But Alzheimer's is a disease where it may require more help than what you are physically able to give. Why don't you check with your nearby hospital or red cross or a health department and try to get some help. There are places that offer help and it might be through the state. Either way try to get some help for her as soon as you can. I'm here to talk with you about it if you'd like, pm me. Take care and good luck!