Warning Bells or what? *Internet*
By SomeCowgirl
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
United States
June 12, 2009 1:54pm CST
This question is posed to those who have dealt with people who have made them uneasy on the internet. Have you ever felt uneasy on the internet, and if so did this uneasiness subside? Did you have warning bells before something major happened online that affected you? How did it affect you? With so many people throughout the world using the internet, sometimes things get lost in translation and while some don't mean to be rude, or offensive, it does seem to come off in that manner. Sometimes you feel your being flirted with, harassed, or unjustly wronged.
How do you deal with these kind of things? Do you tell the person how you feel? Do you report them? 
I've talked to people on the internet, shared information but that was all before my fiance and I got together. Now any information shared on the internet to anyone is first ran by my fiance. As a rule, I don't share anything or very much at all anyway. I've told my fiance of this one occurrence recently, and while I feel that it is harmless in a way I am feel disturbed about it. Of course I need to talk to my fiance some more, but I may end up reporting or deleting this one person from a list on one of the sites I frequent.
Please ask no details as none will be shared unless I feel that I can or should.
I've talked to people on the internet, shared information but that was all before my fiance and I got together. Now any information shared on the internet to anyone is first ran by my fiance. As a rule, I don't share anything or very much at all anyway. I've told my fiance of this one occurrence recently, and while I feel that it is harmless in a way I am feel disturbed about it. Of course I need to talk to my fiance some more, but I may end up reporting or deleting this one person from a list on one of the sites I frequent.
Please ask no details as none will be shared unless I feel that I can or should.3 people like this
3 responses
@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
18 Jun 09
This is a really good question because I am sure that everyone has people that they have dealt with on the internet who have made them feel uneasy,and I am sure that different people have different ideas of what to do,I am sure that some people just ignore the person,and then I am sure that some people will report the person,and some people might even tell the person to go away,even if it means being mean and cursing at the person,and I think I have had an uneasy feeling when I have been on the computer before,and I think it has gone away by itself,and I do not think I have ever had warning bells before something online happened that affected me,and I know that sometimes things get lost in translation,and some do not mean to be rude or offensive while others do,and if I thought I was being flirted with,harassed,or done unjustly I would tell the person how I feel and ask them to leave me alone,and if then if they did not leave me alone I would probably report them,and I know that you talk to me before you share anything on the internet,and I do not share anything either because I do not think that anyone on the internet needs to know anything about me or us,and I remember when you told me about the incident,and I know that you are trying to delete the person,and that you reported him,and that is what I would have done as well,I love you with all my heart and soul,have a great day,good luck with all of your mylotting goals,and Happy Posting.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
19 Jun 09
I know how you feel about sharing information and also how you feel about when somebody talks to me and I feel uneasy about the way they are acting. I have reported him but nothing yet has been written back to me on it, although I think the person has got the message already. I don't like to be mean, whether it be online or offline, so when dealing with anyone I try to be as nice as possible. I love you with all of my heart and soul!
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@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
20 Jun 09
That sucks that nothing has been written back to you from where you reported him,and maybe the person has gotten the message since they seem to have backed off and are not bothering you anymore,and I know you do not like being mean to anyone,so you always try to be as nice as possible,and I try to be nice when dealing with people but sometimes you have to be mean to get someone to listen or understand where you are coming from,I love you with all my heart and soul,have a great day,good luck with all of your mylotting goals,and Happy Posting Baby.
@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
20 Jun 09
Personally over time I think everyone runs into some Shady characters and not sure what is Best to do about them for sure. I know that from time to time, I have seen many interesting people, and have Blocked many people, and reported SPAM many times for sure. You never know what type of Creeps there are out there on the Internet, and possibly even here. It just pays to be cautious for sure.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
22 Jul 09
Being cautious is the best policy. Since I've posted this, I haven't been on the site hardly, but now the site that I had been getting messages from this person is down, I haven't checked it today, but It may have been cancelled, etc. I am sorry it took so long for me to respond. I've just been preoccupied with other things. I appreciate the response.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
12 Jun 09
Hi SomeCowgirl! There are a lot of dangerous people in the world and the internet just gives them a way to move around more and faster. I think that caution should be used anytime your on the internet. Predators are everywhere. Whether it be for money or personal reasons. I have always as a rule..been very cautious. I don't let anyone know anymore about me than I feel safe about. I used to chat some in the rooms and if I was made to feel uncomfortable..I just told them. I think that being upfront is the best way to go. They may be just kidding but if it makes you feel bad..it's no fun. I think everyone needs to know where they stand. If I say something to offend someone..I want to know so I don't do it again. If someone says something to me..I feel like it's a respect to say..hey..we're not going to be friends anymore if you talk to me like that again. If it continues...I'd definately report them. Take care.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
12 Jun 09
I think that you are very right about what you have said. This person I have told that their comment was offensive. He seems very friendly but kind of flirty, and I should tell them upfront that I feel they are being flirty. I appreciate your input, and I think that before I report them I will tell them that I feel they are being flirty and I don't appreciate it. I appreciate your response though, and I hope you have fun here in mylot.
