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 When my husband and i decided to lived in one roof, that is the time i decided to give up things i enjoy. When we decide to get married after 5 months living together, that is the day i finally give up everything even my friends, because my in-laws doesn't want me to have visitors in our house nor they didn't allow me to go out, with out my husband even without their permission. Now iam really really sad that's why i spend my time with my kids, my house, and most of the time browsing the net. I don't have social life when my mome come here in my place that is the time i consider myself socializing in people outside. Sometimes i fell depressed i only get a chance to see other place when me and my husband going to the mall or buy necessities in the supermarket i guess i only go out 3x a month. He doesn't want me also to find job for our family he said that if i work who will take care of our kids. I really don't know what will i going to do i didn't find myself worth it at all i don't blame my husband on what he like to do in our family but what about me did he know my existence at all?
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 nadezna (158) | 7 months ago | It really helps me a lot knowing that you actually consoling me in my actions, but in my case i have to obey what my husband decisions to protect my children on any conflict i can create when i disagree. I hope someday my husband realize what he did to me is not fair at all. I love my husband i respect my in-laws but the thing is did they respect me too, did they know that i have my own life i have to live what i want i have to decide on my own. I also have a dream for myself and my family. As of now i can't decide my actions i don't want that this problem can make huge issues on our family maybe someday i can get a big guts on saying what i really feel. tnx a lot. | |
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| mabanay (4) | 7 months ago | did you talk to your husband about this? i mean, how you feel about how they treat you and stuff like that? Perhaps you should rather than keeping what you feel to yourself... i know it's not easy but just try to tell them what you feel... perhaps it would make you feel better. | |
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| nadezna (158) | 7 months ago | i don't know how to start asking him about our condition. Until now i plan everything i don't want anyone to get hurt when i begin to say that they have to allow me do the things i love, and also i want to achieve my dream i hope when i talk to him he will understand and allow me little by little. | |
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| nadezna (158) | 7 months ago | My husband only wants the best for our family, but my in-laws i don't understand why they have to do that. i hope someday i have the guts to say that im not comfortable with my situation. tnx^_^ | |
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| 3. dixie4 (1) | 7 months ago | Estar casados no es alejarse de los demás. Si desde que se casaron ya no tenes amigos, simplemente algo anda mal; tu pareja seguramente es muy posesiva. Debes de entablar una conversación con ella y decirle que es lo que está pasando. | |
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 angelsmummy (986) | 7 months ago |  This should be in English as the Mylot people cant understand anyhting other than english. Hope this helps
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| nadezna (158) | 7 months ago | ^_^ i know that you want to say something that can help my situation. tnx. | |
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4.  oyenkai (3354) | 7 months ago |  This is overly absurd! That is no way to treat a decent human being. Is there any reason why they don't trust you to leave the house by yourself, or even with your kids? Why did you marry in the first place if you obviously weren't growing as an individual in that suffocating relationship?
What ever happened to loving yourself in order to be capable of loving others? You're trying to be a martyr in the wrong way. Martyrs are martyrs because they die for the ultimate love, but that does not mean that they meaninglessly sacrificed their lives for other people.
Let me ask you a question, if you died tonight, would you go to heaven for all the absurdity you LET other people do to you?
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| nadezna (158) | 7 months ago | Im so sorry im just a human being who only wants best for my family and other people around me. I dont' like conflicts that's why i don't complain a lot. I don't know the reason why they don't allow me to do what i want, but they always say that i have my own family now i have to focus taking care of them i have to be contented on what i really have. | |
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| oyenkai (3354) | 7 months ago | "I'm only human" - this is not an excuse. Being human is not an incapacity - it's a strength and it shows how MUCH you can do and not how little you can do. Having a family does not kill your individual personality, being "locked in" your house and being restricted to do things that you want to do that wouldn't even affect your relationships and your responsibilities negatively is not right.
It's obvious that you're not happy with your current status. And you say that you don't like conflicts so you avoid arguments. Those two things are contradicting each other. If you don't like where you stand right now, then you should do something about it because no one else would fix your life for you.
I hope you the best.
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| nadezna (158) | 7 months ago | It's so easy for you to say that but, i have to admit i'am also responsible for what i've done in my life. But figuring something good for every one make me feel better rather than to hurt people who's i believe i have to value much. I don't have question on what you want to specify but maybe your right and i'am wrong. Thanks for the response and have a nice day.^_^ | |
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