navy life

hi,thanks for the advices,a while ago i was washing the dishes,mu husband called but i miss the call but he left a voicemail saying hes gonna be out somewhere but see he cant tell me on the phone becoz the ship is just pulling in,but we all know already where they are going cuz we have this code that we understand each other without him breaking their rules especially he is a chief,he said that hes gonna take out some money and dont worry about him cuz he is gonna be a good boy for me and hes gonna look something special for me out there,and hes gonna call me later,.
so anyways that friend of mine that i was mentioning is coming tonight here at the house with her mom and son,we always just all hanging out together you know?so i know already as soon as she got here shes gonna tell me they are gonna be on the port,so im kinda preparing for that,.either i dont say anything or either ill tell her what my husband told me,do u think i should tell her or just keep my mouth shut?so no further questions or the story wont go far at all?

Since you already know she's going to probably have a negative response, I don't think I'd even mention your husband's phone call about this. If she brings it up about what port they're heading for and if has any negative comment about it, I personally would just smile and ask her something about her day, something to show you care about her and her family but that way you can change the subject and you won't get entangled in arguing with her and feeling bad about anything negative she might have to say about your husband. I personally would just hang out with her and her family and try to have a good time, and would just not tell her anything that might invite negative comments.

Of course, that's just my opinion for what it's worth, but that's what worked for me. Good luck to you. I hope you and your friends have a great time together, with no bad comments to make you feel bad. Best of luck.

Oh, and thanks for the best response vote.

no problem,thanks for the advices too,i was enlightened,so what happened is when we started talking (me and my friend)she said that yes they are in this place and its just a ferry ride going to singapore,and i know what she is trying to say,so i said,i would like to live in singapore sometime on our lifetime on the navy me and my husband,i think its very pretty there and very clean country,and she just didnt say anything,i know i can feel her,i feel bad about what happened to her and its just recently and her husband is on the same ship with my husband,but i cant let anyone right now,to put negative thoughts on me on hard times like this,im so feeling alone especially everytime i comes back home from outside,and i feel so empty and trying to survive each day.i can always come back to the island (GUAM)but i have to take care of our unit (which is in renovation right now)and i got commitments here already that i need to accomplished and some things that i needed to do,.and hes always telling me if i can stay here in san diego for him he wishes me to just stay,but if coming home to Guam for a while to visit my family while hes gone will really make me happy then he supports me in every way.

hi is it the RONALD REAGAN ship? heading to the persian gulf? coz i also got friends in there and haven't heard from them since they left last week so any news? where are they now? thanks

me too,thanks thats what i feels too i know him more than any one else but it really bothers me when my friend start talking bad about this and that like for ex.she will say just enjoy the time we are still saying i love you with each other becoz we are just newly wed,and then later on everything will change,but you see my husband is very affectionate with me,we hardly have this intimacy becoz he is always stress at work plus they always have this 24 hour duty like 3 times a week and its killing him but we always do something together,and he never went out without me,and he rather stay home after work,he never have this boy's night out becoz the only time available he have he said is just for me,.Im not a straightforward person really,im always careful becoz i dont wanna hurt her feelings and i know she just needed someone to talk to about her experiences.

I understand that you don't want to hurt her feelings, I'm the same way about that. I don't want to hurt anyone in any way. But she is hurting your feelings. It's okay for her to talk about her misgivings and what she thinks as far as it comes to her life and her husband. But it is not very kind of her to say hurtful things to you.
Not all men are the same. My husband is the same as yours as far as always wanting to be with me in his free time. We have been married for 18 years and he has not changed she we first started dating.
Just take the time you are given with your husband. Welcome all of the time you have. Do little things for him when he is not there. I use to show up on base and take food to my husband and the others in his section that happen to be working late. That way I got to see him more and I got to make sure that he had a good meal for dinner. We also talked on the phone every spare minute that he had during his watch. You could even write a little note and stick it in his shirt pocket for him to find later. Little things mean a lot.