Man or woman on top what's the advantage/disadvantage to the partner?
By zearah
@zearah (5381)
Philippines
July 1, 2009 12:23am CST
In several cases man and woman would break up because of pride and ego. In some instances it's favorable to the woman if her man is low profile one. But in some cases, man may never want to be under with the woman in terms of planning and decision making. It is he the man who would always want to excel and control the relationship.
What is your opinion on this?
3 responses
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
1 Jul 09
In my opinion: There is no woman and man must be in top. For me I need to be reasonable in both sides. Before reacting on what my partners opinion.
I need to analyze first if their is something wrong. If found any inconsistencies I will tell to her my opinion on what she said. If she, force to continue his opinion and trying to correct it. Just let her to do that...
I don't want to be on top always. I want to avoid any unnecessary conversation that makes us argue...
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@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
She is lucky because I am a reasonable person. But the problem is, I have no girl friend or partners...lol.
I think one of the requisite for a relationship to survive is that respect, consideration, understanding and God fearing.
Respect - respect her opinion so that she respect too whatever your opinion is?
Consideration - to be considerate is an option for you determined what is lacking in a relationship and avoidance of unnecessary arguments that last into constant quarreling.
Understanding - to be able to conceptualize what your partners likes and dislike to avoid any misinterpretation on such events, words, things, and personal characteristics
God fearing - this is the most important part of a relationship whether you are marriage or lovers. This will avoid you to create pain to your partner. Avoid you think evils to your partners. Avoid you make sin. Avoid you to do harm to your partners and more...
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@zearah (5381)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
Oh! Since you've mentioned that you don't have a girl (whether you actually have but you lost it or you still searching), I would say that, you might be choosy (sorry to say), but it's a good sign, those characteristics you've said, yes those are perfect blend in a man to be loved by a woman. Keep it up! Hope you'll find soon the right girl!Good luck!
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[b][/b]@zearah (5381)
• Philippines
1 Jul 09
Yes aerous!
Good that you had shared your opinion, now we could determine that there's such a man like you that do not dominate in a relationship. I'm sure whoever your woman now she's so lucky for having you in her life. If I'm not wrong you're one in a hundred men.
@shakil8 (407)
• India
1 Jul 09
hii zearah its quite a nice but common & important topic............well if u have a partner its a great felling because he/she makes u feel special & about the ego problems it normally pops up if u dont have understanding & faith in ur partner..............well thats what i think it may defer from ur opinion......take care
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@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
1 Jul 09
for me, i think if you are in a relationship, a give and take relationship would be nice and be humble enough...as a woman we must obey our husbands for they are the head of the family and its not good that we make them "under the saya"! its something that they don't want. we must pay respect to our husbands...
and to men, they should also listen to their wife and give considerations in her feelings and in her opinions...its not bad to ask for her opinion coz there are times that women really have better idea or opinion in certain things...
in decision making, they should talk about it first and don't make any decision without asking your partner coz it may lead to mis understandings...so good communication, open mindedness and considerations are needed and of course respect!
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@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
1 Jul 09
hahaha..know what? i don't really know where those words came...sometimes i'm wondering, am i that old to have these things on my mind? or do i really have such experiences that i can share these words to other people? oh well i think its the effect of me always going to church and talking to the elders...and i also get some from their experiences! and i am happy when ever there's somebody like you who appreciates what i am saying...hehehe
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@zearah (5381)
• Philippines
1 Jul 09
Feel like I'm on counseling. It's very well said friend : "take it from the expert". I sense how successful you're in your marriage life, and your words reflect how far you've done in your relationship. For me this a real success to have enough knowledge of a thing where you're in to.
