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Who do you think is more important for the kids, the dad or the mom? email this discussion to a friend?

myLot reputation of 94/100. vijayanths (914)   ranked 2,597 out of 14,943 in parenting6 months ago

If course for any child both mom and dad are very important in life. But who is more important? I know for some children mom is more important and for some others dad is more important. Who is more important for most of the children? And why?

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 97/100. archerzbaby (2539)   ranked 66 out of 14,943 in parenting   6 months ago

I don't think I can easily compare because even for my side, both my parents were important to me. So important and I'm so close to them when I was growing up and my baby girl now, she's so attached to both of us, her mom and dad. I don't know for other people but I just can't find any reason to compare. They both play such an important role to me and my life and so am i to my daughter now and as my hubby for her too.


myLot reputation of 94/100. vijayanths (914)   ranked 2,597 out of 14,943 in parenting  6 months ago

Of course both are important, who is more important? they can't be exactly 50% and 50%, right?

To me my dad seemed to me more important right from my childhood and till the end when he died last April this year.

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2. myLot reputation of 91/100. meandmy3 (1328)   ranked 214 out of 14,943 in parenting   6 months ago

I think that it is equally important for a child to have a loving mother and father in their life and that both are very important to the proper up bringing of a child.


myLot reputation of 94/100. vijayanths (914)   ranked 2,597 out of 14,943 in parenting  6 months ago

Yes, both are important, but can it be 50-50? Similarly I have seen parents saying I have the same amount of love to all my children. But can it be exactly the same?


myLot reputation of 91/100. meandmy3 (1328)   ranked 214 out of 14,943 in parenting  6 months ago

You love your children in different ways as they are different children and have different qualities etc. But for you to ask me if I love one more than the other would be silly and I would of course tell you now, while I love them in different ways, I do not love one more than the other.

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3. myLot reputation of 95/100. Raven7317 (313)   ranked 94 out of 14,943 in parenting   6 months ago

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myLot reputation of 94/100. vijayanths (914)   ranked 2,597 out of 14,943 in parenting  6 months ago

I fully agree with all your points Raven. I am asking you who is more important to the child mostly in practical life? Suppose if you take 100 children ask them what will be the percentage for both men and women? If men gets more votes then they are better parents, that is it, simple.


myLot reputation of 95/100. Raven7317 (313)   ranked 94 out of 14,943 in parenting  6 months ago

I disagree with that... if you ask a child to decide, his/her reasons are based on desire, not want or what's best. For example, a home where one parent works and one stays home to raise the children. This is how my home is; I am a SAHM, my DH works all day. So at the end of the day, my son is all about Daddy because he hasn't seen him all day. My DH is all about playing and wrestling and enjoying being with his son, because he hasn't seen him all day. If you were to ask my son who he wants to be with, he will most likely pick his father. He views being with daddy as all play, all fun, all good things in his life. But he doesn't know, because he's 4 years old, that if we were ever to split up, my DH WOULD not be the better parent. Because he doesn't know how to be a full time parent, because he works ALL day...
So while I understand your question, I disagree with what you assume. If a parent gets more points, from a child, that does not mean that parent is a better parent.
It just means the child wants to be with them.


myLot reputation of 94/100. vijayanths (914)   ranked 2,597 out of 14,943 in parenting  6 months ago

when you compare between two things it can't be exactly 50-50 in most cases.

One thing has to be more than the other.
This law is applicable to this question too.

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4. myLot reputation of 93/100. justbeingtiffany (1012)   6 months ago

the mom for me. just because i feel embarrassed to talk about girl things with my dad. n u see most dads today aren't even around so that tells u that most kids grow up just fine without one.


myLot reputation of 94/100. vijayanths (914)   ranked 2,597 out of 14,943 in parenting  6 months ago

yes, thanks for the response. I think you are frank and clear in your thoughts. keep it up friend.

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5. myLot reputation of 77/100. drknlvly6781 (3165)   ranked 532 out of 14,943 in parenting   6 months ago

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myLot reputation of 94/100. vijayanths (914)   ranked 2,597 out of 14,943 in parenting  6 months ago

I do agree with you drknlvly. But when you compare between two things it can't be 50-50. One has to more.I always thought that my dad was more important to me.


myLot reputation of 77/100. drknlvly6781 (3165)   ranked 532 out of 14,943 in parenting  6 months ago

Of course the child will have a favorite between the two parents; just like parents of multiple children oftentimes have a child that they like more than the other(s). However, in this discussion, you asked for importance, and neither is more important than the other. In order to have a well-balanced life a child needs lots of interaction with both parents.

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6. myLot reputation of 91/100. rapolu_cs (955)   ranked 293 out of 14,943 in parenting   6 months ago

In my view it is both the child should have for their best future and both are important on their position and both have equal role in parenting. Both are important in child's life


myLot reputation of 94/100. vijayanths (914)   ranked 2,597 out of 14,943 in parenting  6 months ago

I don't deny that both are important. they are important. But can it be exactly 50-50? No, now tell me.

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7. myLot reputation of 90/100. srganesh (3486)   ranked 2,283 out of 14,943 in parenting   6 months ago

A father and a mother,both are important to a child to build up his personality.While one can be lineant allowing the kid to enjoy freedom the other should be strict helping the kid to control within limits.There need not be any percentage of domination for parents to share.They can equally help the kid in their own fields.A kid is expected to enjoy both the parents presence and guidance.Cheers!


myLot reputation of 94/100. vijayanths (914)   ranked 2,597 out of 14,943 in parenting  6 months ago

It is not domination I mean more importance.Nice response from you ganesh as usual.

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8. myLot reputation of 94/100. indahfth (1351)   ranked 1,342 out of 14,943 in parenting   6 months ago

Mother and father is a partner that can not be separated role in educating children. They must separated role in educating children. They must work together to support and complement each other. As a pair of legs, that when one crop then the owner gammy leg. Such was the role of the father and the mother in educating the child, if one separated the responsibilities, the educational game for children. Mother is the first educator and the primary for the childHowever, it also does not remove the . Sacrificing mother who has delivered the life of the child. And the mother who has the intensity of togetherness and a meeting with the child more. Meanwhile, the father, of its duties as a breadwinner for the family to make most of them are more outside the home. Mother a place to moan moan for primary children, because mothers are most often near the child. The person nearest the second after the mother is the father.
In this case, the position of the father is under the mother, because most of the father must spend time outside the home, far from the family, including her son to search for the family income. However, it also does not remove the obligation of the father to remain involved in the education of children. Father must always the education of children. give support to the mother to remain vibrant in the hearts of the educated, given the task of the mother who is very heavy. Father a place to ask, when there are family problems or problems of the child if that can not be completed by the mother. Through the mother, father and the advice can deliver messages for the child. Father is also a place to ask for the child. Understanding to provide them with full patience, gentle, and wise.


myLot reputation of 94/100. vijayanths (914)   ranked 2,597 out of 14,943 in parenting  6 months ago

I agree with most of your discussion indahfth. My question is who is more important? Because I strongly feel it can't be exactly 50-50. Thanks for the response.


myLot reputation of 94/100. indahfth (1351)   ranked 1,342 out of 14,943 in parenting  6 months ago

father and mother equally important

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9. w33347 (12)   ranked 11,079 out of 14,943 in parenting   6 months ago

i feel that it is mother.
a mother is very important in a child life as they are usually able to take better care of the children


myLot reputation of 94/100. vijayanths (914)   ranked 2,597 out of 14,943 in parenting  6 months ago

Ok, this is what I expected. It has to be either mom or dad. But I think most of the children consider their dad as more important. You know why? In most of the homes the dad is the prime earning member. It is changing a lot all over the world though.Until both men and women are able to earn almost equally dad my be considered more important, this is my view.

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10. myLot reputation of 92/100. eshaan (2526)   ranked 1,522 out of 14,943 in parenting   6 months ago

This question..you should ask kids only happy..they can answer it more properly.....i think both have their own duties to do, and if mother looks after all other needs and work whole day for their studies, food, and lot of otehr things...the father gives a big support of money....if the motehr is herself earning then i would say that the balance goes to her side, as she is performing more duties of child care...but with the cahnging times everything is changing...i have seen many dads taking equal care of their children at home also, if their wife is working lady...so i think...both happy


bluefishman (1)  6 months ago

there is a lot of discussion but to me it is definetly 50-50 its definetly to hard to pick between them


myLot reputation of 94/100. vijayanths (914)   ranked 2,597 out of 14,943 in parenting  6 months ago

@eshaan and bluefishman:

No doubt both are important, but it can't be exactly 50-50.If you could access the difference then there is the answer for this.

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