a debt that cannot be payed...reciprocity; inner debt; moral debt...

Hi ck! I fully agree with you that though we can't repay all debts to some people...we should atleast feel grateful for their favours in our heart of heart and we should show our gratefulnes to them and we should always respect them. Deepak PS - Oh! Come on! Don't say 'sorry', even if you post your comments a bit late, what matter is your comments, irrespective of its time of posting.

hello dpk! well yes i agree with you...we should help and support others without expecting anything in return, for for me that's the real sense of helping... although we can't repay all those kind of debts to some people...atleast we can do something to show them that we are very grateful for what they have done to us...by being good to them or in any possible way that we can do... thanks dpk and sorry for the late comments...

YEah ^_^ We do owe our frenz, relatives, parents, family, strangers something in life ^_^ BUt how many ple actually realise that?? No that much because most of us are actually selfish.. They only think about themselves and nobody else.. Just like now, i'm also owing u a debt.. BEcause without all your posts, i wont be able to respond as much and be commenting so much too.. hehe ^_^ I owe my earnings to u ^_^

yes i think, material things are easy to pay but debt that's not material is really can't be paid for it don't have any cost! you are right that all of us are owing someone something coz by one chance or another there are people who have helped us...we can't be who we are now, what we are, where we are just by ourselves alone...

hahaha...me too! i owe you something here... well i guess that seems to be the case that there are really some people who do not realize that by one way or another we are owing something to someone...even if we said that we should not wait for anything in return when we help (well that's actually the right attitude), we, if we are the one who gets the help, we should know how to be grateful to those people who do us a favor...coz we are not talking of any material things here, though we can use it sometimes to do other people a favor or to help them... what i am just trying to say here, which i think some don't really understand is that all of us have a debt to someone, a debt that cannot be payed and that is the moral or inner debt! its not a material debt but still its a debt...a debt that we cannot pay coz it is something that's really non-payable but we must recognize this and be grateful to someone who lend this to us... i hope you understand what i wrote coz i feel like i don't write it well, i find difficulty in expressing what i really want to say...i have limited english vocabulary! hahaha

hello sreekala! nice seeing you here!~ :-) well i also agree with you that we as children do also have responsibilities to our parents, although its our parents responsibility to take care of us and raise us well, we as children should not look at it just like that, we should also learn how to appreciate our parent's sacrifices for us and we should be grateful with it... we can't really pay those inner debts to our parents but we can always show them our appreciation, love and care to them... have a good day!

hi there! well like you, i don't also think that someone owes me something when i do them a favor or i have helped them...but when someone do me a favor or who have helped me, i never forget about that and always looking for someway to at least return the favor or show my appreciation and gratitude on what they have done to me... i agree that we can pay them through other people ...i remember there are some families who are really looking back for the help that the other family have done to them and so they return the favor up to the son of son of son of their sons...something like that...looks like it is brought to all generations... thanks for sharing! have a good day!

I know in my family, my brother and I go back and forth with doing each other favors. It seems like he is always trying to do one better than me and I never seem to do enough to keep him happy. But I'm not going to lose any sleep over it. Have a great day!!!

what is important is we know how to be grateful to all people...

yes i agree with you! thanks!

hi zearah! well it i got your point. thanks. the debt i am talking about is "utang na loob"(inner debt, moral debt, reciprocity), i just want to say that all of us should learn how to recognize it and be grateful to anyone who have done us good deeds...this debt really is non-payable coz this is not a material thing, this is something that we carry in our life... yes you are right, if we are good to our parents, we respect them, we care for them especially on their old age, well that's a way of showing to them that we recognize what they have done to us and that we are thankful to them...those were just little things that we can do to our parents since we owe them who we are and even our lives...that's why i think, even those not so good parents...or they say irresponsible parents still deserve some respect and love from their children...coz those children still owe their lives to those parents... thanks and have a nice day!

oh well by the way, again i agree on what you said on the other thread above...that we should pray for those people who have helped us...that's the best thing we can do...

i also agree with you in this... thanks! have a nice day...

oh yes sweetashoney...there are really parents like that who always told their children that they owe them something...and i think that is not really proper coz it looks like they are waiting or imposing to their children to do something to return the favor to them... i agree with you that parents should not think that their children have something to owe with them...let the children realize it their own and yes respect is really something that a children must give to their parents and well i think its one way of looking back on what their parents have done to them... thanks for sharing have a nice day! by the way, i hope people will understand what i wrote coz i myself don't feel that i have written it clearly, actually i got a hard time putting it into words... thanks again!

hello julbau! yes, it might not be our will to be born here, yes our parents made us out of love to each other, they took care of us, feed us, bring us to school, give everything we need, try all their best to raise us to give us what we want to give anything that can give to us...their love and all. yes they created us and so its just their responsibility to do all those things...but as a child i think it will be great if we will know how to be grateful to them, in everything what they have done...yes maybe our parents did not think it as a debt that we need to pay (which i think is the right attitude for parents...)but we as children should still find some way in order to by anyway return the favors to our parents, respecting them, loving them and taking care of them especially in their old age... i agree that we should never ask or expect anything in return when we give our help to others, but you as a person, don't you feel that if someone helps you, you should be grateful in it that don't you feel that you owe them something and try to return some favors if ever is possible? thanks for sharing your thoughts!