Lack of respect
By sjvenden27
@sjvenden27 (1840)
United States
July 17, 2009 3:13am CST
Hi my fellow Mylotters;
I have been hearing from my elders that their is a lack of respect of them, and that it seems the more the generations move on the less respect they are giving.. There is this situation that my aunt is facing right now that is really pissing me off
My aunt for many years has been their for one of her daughter in participial.. My cousin has always gotten her way for the most part, my aunt would move heaven and earth to do everything that she could to support her in her life.. When my cousin was 18, some parents would kick their child out for the lack of respect my aunt was receiving.. My aunt stood by her regardless.. About a year ago my aunt left that house, she needed to help her other daughter.. And the "princess" (thats her nickname) had to grin and bare life on her own with her finance.. But my aunt left basically everything there in the house for THEM... including her CAR... well things did not work out for my aunt so she asked to move back in.. she was allowed the [/b][/i][/u] SMALLEST ROOM in the house!!! [b][i][u]IS NOT ALLOW TO HAVE ANYTHING ANYWHERE ELSE IN THE HOUSE...EXCEPT OF COURSE THE STUFF THAT SHE ALREADY LEFT FOR THE PRINCESS!! My aunt has to pay RENT... granted that is fine you know.. if my aunt had a JOB OR SOME KIND OF INCOME!! she doesnt... and considering the princess live under her roof for 4 or 5 years basically for free after she turned 18.. do you think that favor was given back or even though of now?? NO WAY
What really makes me mad is the fact that my aunt is in this small room but is paying rent ok.. so it is like a room mate situation... under normal circumstances room mates are allow friends or family to come over... I would come over and see my aunt outside.. just because I didn't want to go were I didnt belong.. My aunt and I were out shopping, she had some food FOR THEM.. and it was frozen so she needed to put it away... This was one of those rare occassions my son was not with us.. So I was able to help her, and she wanted me too.. Help her put her food on the table, used the bathroom and took my aunts dog outside... while she was finishing up.. the princess came out of her hole to confront my aunt... why was she in my house?? you did not have permission!! ON and ON she when..
NO RESPECT THAT COUSIN OF MIND IS SOOOOOOOOOO LUCKY I DID NOT HEAR ANYTHING SHE SAID!!! WOULD SAY SOME OTHER KEY PHASES ABOUT MY COUSIN BUT THAT WOULD NOT BE RIGHT!!
It just pisses me off.. If I had more room in my house I would say move in... get out of there.. Any advice my fellow mylotters for either my aunt or myself.. The floor is yours...
My aunt for many years has been their for one of her daughter in participial.. My cousin has always gotten her way for the most part, my aunt would move heaven and earth to do everything that she could to support her in her life.. When my cousin was 18, some parents would kick their child out for the lack of respect my aunt was receiving.. My aunt stood by her regardless.. About a year ago my aunt left that house, she needed to help her other daughter.. And the "princess" (thats her nickname) had to grin and bare life on her own with her finance.. But my aunt left basically everything there in the house for THEM... including her CAR... well things did not work out for my aunt so she asked to move back in.. she was allowed the [/b][/i][/u] SMALLEST ROOM in the house!!! [b][i][u]IS NOT ALLOW TO HAVE ANYTHING ANYWHERE ELSE IN THE HOUSE...EXCEPT OF COURSE THE STUFF THAT SHE ALREADY LEFT FOR THE PRINCESS!! My aunt has to pay RENT... granted that is fine you know.. if my aunt had a JOB OR SOME KIND OF INCOME!! she doesnt... and considering the princess live under her roof for 4 or 5 years basically for free after she turned 18.. do you think that favor was given back or even though of now?? NO WAY
What really makes me mad is the fact that my aunt is in this small room but is paying rent ok.. so it is like a room mate situation... under normal circumstances room mates are allow friends or family to come over... I would come over and see my aunt outside.. just because I didn't want to go were I didnt belong.. My aunt and I were out shopping, she had some food FOR THEM.. and it was frozen so she needed to put it away... This was one of those rare occassions my son was not with us.. So I was able to help her, and she wanted me too.. Help her put her food on the table, used the bathroom and took my aunts dog outside... while she was finishing up.. the princess came out of her hole to confront my aunt... why was she in my house?? you did not have permission!! ON and ON she when..
NO RESPECT THAT COUSIN OF MIND IS SOOOOOOOOOO LUCKY I DID NOT HEAR ANYTHING SHE SAID!!! WOULD SAY SOME OTHER KEY PHASES ABOUT MY COUSIN BUT THAT WOULD NOT BE RIGHT!!
It just pisses me off.. If I had more room in my house I would say move in... get out of there.. Any advice my fellow mylotters for either my aunt or myself.. The floor is yours...2 people like this
5 responses
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
Oh my,after reading your post my friend,i don't know what to say either.
We maybe don't have any right for your cousin has all the right to do with her mom,but hey, is there no any instution that can help your aunt?...Like here in my country,we can report this case to non-government organization,for human rights violation.(No child can ever do that to their parents esp the mother who takes care for you when you were young and raised you to what you are now,im really upset with this situation dear )
I do understand your sentiment on this matter and that u want to help your aunt.Just try to look for any help you can extend,don't stop helping her and never mind your cousin.Try to ask in your localities if there is any organization that can help your aunt get away from her monster daughter (sorry if i called her like that )aw,i really can't think clearly,this is sickening.
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@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
17 Jul 09
Regardless of my cousin's attitude or anyone else for that matter I try to be there for my aunt when I can.. She has helped me so much over the years.. I think of her more as a mother then an aunt.. I can not be around my real mother; there are major issues and hurts that keep us from talking.. But if my mother was in my life, or I found out that my mother was in real trouble or danger, I would be there in a heart beat, just because of the fact she is my mother regardless of the situation.. One of the ten commandments states that we must respect our parents...
@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
17 Jul 09
That is possible but not always the case... My cousin is nice to everyone else; and respects them for the most point it is just my aunt... from what it looks like.. there may be more there.. but I have no idea.. and do not care to guess either, that's not my place..
I am not trying to judge my cousin; just I do not like what is going on.. the actions, not my cousin as a person.. she has some wonderful qualities about her.. I just do not agree with her treating her mother like dirt..
Last night I was blowing off some steam, I can not confront my cousin; that would just make things a lot worst for my aunt in the end.. My cousin is not part of mylot so I can let out my frustrations without making things worst...
@maggiesunjuan (561)
• China
21 Jul 09
The prince, possibly I could tell from her name, is spoiled by your aunt. She is so selfish, why doesn't she think about the fact that once she belonged to her mother's body! It's just like you stab yourself with a knife, she is so crazy and ungrateful! Sorry, maybe my words are offensive, but, I truly hope she could think about what she did, she is too selfish and your aunt is way too good to her daughter.
@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Jul 09
Sounds like a family meeting is in order. Call one and have all the responsible parties and ones involved in on it. Tell them ahead of time so they can think of valid questions and such that they want to bring up or address. This sort of thing has been going for generations. It never stops. It is only fare that all parties involved knows what to expect. I would think this is the respectful way to handle it. I hope that helps.
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Jul 09
Never know until you try. If she can talk to them maybe she can make them understand her side. Communication in any relationship is important.
@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
18 Jul 09
Thank you for the advise, I will pass this one to my aunt.. Not sure if this would work, but who knows.
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@devmitra (274)
• India
20 Jul 09
Helo sj.
This is so sad to hear.This girl,princess is behaving in a very immature and offending way.It is never expected of a sensible and generous being.Here I would have the audacity to point out that,it is not about the generation,but the person concerned in particular,and that person is princess here,who to my belief is the most horrible and schizoid lady,I have heard of till recent.
It wont do much good to talk to her.If anything can help,that would,I reckon,be the support and comforting words of noble hearted persons which would be of the much required help to your aunt.You can do your own bit of it.I guess,that can help.As for princess,she will know, that good services never go unrewarded and SINS NEVER GO UNPUNISHED in the hall of the Almighty.She will get her due.God bless you and may God provide the strength to your aunt to survive all this.
@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
20 Jul 09
Thank you for your comment.. And I really appreciate the part about my aunt.. She is really going through a rough time right now... On top of all of this, both of her computers are about to crash.. Then she will have no money at all for herself.. She feels like everything she touches falls apart... Her faith is weak right now.. but I try to help her keep her faith...
