My Ex-Husband left me for another woman

Oh hun. I have never had to deal with that but my heart goes out to you. I can only imagine that your a nervous wreck. My advice would be to not let him come back. Stand up for your self and dont let him walk on you. I know easier said than done. I hope that he will stop doing this soon for your sanity. Hugs to you. Keep your head up and remember you deserve better than that.

Honey yes I went through that with my first husband. At first his mom had died so when he said he needed time to think I thought it had to do with dealing with his mom's death. I would get visits from his every other day to tell me he was confused, sad, etc. One day while talking to him in the truck I found a strand of red hair. I asked him who was in the truck and he told me, the other lady. I was surprised he told me he had met her at a school he was attending and how nice she was, etc. Let me tell you I hunted this lady down only to find that she was some older lady who used him to take her and her family to the market. Well I took away the truck he drove her and her family around which left him walking or taking the bus. She dumped him soon after but she wasn't the only one. He went out with several bimbos, at the end this lady got pregnant so he got committed to her. It wasn't worth the ups and downs I put myself through. To top it off half these women were ugly! I think he thought it was ok since they were older and couldn't get pregnant but the last one did. I really thought I was going crazy half the time because it wasn't so much that I loved him but I guess the stubborness of trying to make him stay. I got pregnant, lost our baby, then that is when he had decided to leave me again. I got a restraining order to keep him away because he always thought he'd wait a few days and do the mind number on me. I learned alot with that relationship. I don't regret it and I am glad that we never had kids. I did find out he had two little girls with this lady. She runs the show as well.

Sounds like the man is using you, and he is very needy to have a woman all the time. I would not let him come back to you because he is just taking advantage of your forgiveness, you deserve better than that. It must hurt your self confidence to be left all of the time, I can imagine it doing that to me. You deserve to be loved and not left whenever he feels like coming and going. I know it is hard, but you need to say "no" and cut him off. I know that you can fight the temptation, maybe try to do some yoga, become in touch with yourself (not that you aren't), and just leave him do what he wants but don't let him infringe on your well-being.

I have never been through this but I think it is time for you to move on with your life. He is having a blast with this probably. He is getting the best of both worlds.

I have never gone thru this but let me tell you PLEASE next time he leaves you change the locks to the house, change your phone number and just move on without him. You are allowing him to continue playing this game with you. Don't you deserve a better life and a better man. Be strong and know that you can do this. Do something for yourself for a change.