do you ever feel like you missed some parts of your life?
By samafayla33
@samafayla33 (1856)
United States
July 31, 2009 9:20pm CST
I missed out on some of my teens and twenties. Do you ever feel like you've missed out on some of your adolesance or childhood?
3 responses
@fruitcakeliz (2638)
• United States
1 Aug 09
I somehow managed to skip out on my whole 18-22 year old, "be free, find yourself and figure out who you want to be" phase. Within a year after graduating high shcool i had moved half way across the country and was getting married to my now ex-husband. While all of our friends were enjoying the carefree college years, and all of the partying, fun times and socializing that goes along with it, he and i were struggling to make ends meet and pay our bills and trying to figure out how to live as a married couple.
Obviously this had a large part to do with why our marriage didn't last even a full three years. I was unhappy, and didn't feel like i was being successful at any part of my life, like i was a failure at bieng a wife, being an adult, making a living, and he felt as though he was missing out on all the parties and good times with his friends, so it ended.
After about six months of feeling evenmore like a failure because my marriage had fallen apart, i definately went a little crazy for a bit, trying to make up for lost times. I hung out constantly with a large group of friends, all of whom were a couple years younger than me, and persued a carefree, wreckless life. Luckily i came out of that period unscathed and realized wht a mistake it was, as this was not helping me get to where i wanted to be with my life.
@samafayla33 (1856)
• United States
2 Aug 09
lol eventhough there were a few carefree and reckless times, there was possibly a gem in those memories that possibly makes you laugh and remember less of thos ugly times, thank you for sharing your thoughts with me!
@fruitcakeliz (2638)
• United States
2 Aug 09
Oh yes. It has been long enough now that the pain and unhappyness has all faded away and i can remember the fun, good times and laugh. It was a life experience, i learned many lessons from that time that i now you are reference when making future descisions, as i don't want to wind up in that same place ever again!
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
2 Aug 09
hi sama ...
i missed a whole lot .. from 21 til 29, sometimes i cant remember and sometimes i do not want to remember ... it was a fast journey .. with sweet sour pain memories
cheers
@samafayla33 (1856)
• United States
2 Aug 09
thanks! I really appreciate the input, sometimes you know there's someone going through the same lil'bit of trauma, but you just get up and say, hey i'm young again, let's party! :)
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
1 Aug 09
..yeah.. I missed the being my own.. What I mean is, I have been into responsibilities when I was young and until now, I'm faced with responsibilities that concerns family.. I've never experienced spending my salary for my luxury.. I always thought of my family's bread first.. I also miss the happiness of being a child.. I never experienced being a child.. At a young age, I need to be taught about different home chores and works.. I never enjoyed playing with my friends.. Though I have experienced playing with other kids but I never had a chance to enjoy it fully..
@samafayla33 (1856)
• United States
2 Aug 09
lol happiness comes in small packages and sometimes something small it seems helps out more than getting yourself big and expensive things! Thank you for letting me realize that! have a great sunday!




