Is marriage a a fair democracy
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
Malaysia
August 21, 2009 3:04am CST
When i got married, my husband said .. we will discuss over matters but he makes the final decision
Can marriage considered biased or reasonable ?? are partners really making the decisions together ..
Is this what actually causes divorces? when the decision made is not acceptable by the other half
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@rameshkumaar57 (5908)
• India
21 Aug 09
Marriage is a fair democracy. Why should one go for a divorce, just for the reason, that one is not accepting the others decision. In a married life, it should be a matter of give and take policy. You cannot expect all your decision to be accepted by your husband and vice versa.
Divorce should be the last step, as in the case of violence or not able stand each other or something like that.
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
21 Aug 09
how do you resolve difference of opinion when you believe yours is the best solution
@rameshkumaar57 (5908)
• India
21 Aug 09
As I have mentioned, it is a give and take policy.So even if you are right, it is better to keep quiet, cause if both start thinking they are right, there is no end to the argument. In a marriage, when ever one partner keeps silent, (let it be a man or woman), the marriage always survives.
In my younger age, I always thought that I was always right. My wife kept quite for many years. When the mistakes happened regularly, I was forced to go to her for her advice, and now I do not take any decision, without my wifes advice.
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
22 Aug 09
ramesh ..
it is very tru ... same with my husband, when the mistakes keep happening from his decission he talks discusses more and more with me on all issues ... he takes my comments very seriously ...
And now i am smart too .. i will always ask his opinion and decision in somethings so that "i can blame him" ha ha ha 
@MAHESH2008 (844)
• India
21 Aug 09
No sanjana, such acts will not causes divorce. Each partner as command in certain areas and he can make final decisions on those areas. Everyone needs little bit free space for themselves.Still their are some areas where common decision matters and can be discussed and resolved.
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
21 Aug 09
if the argument has 2 differedt opinion which nr selected ??
@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
4 Sep 09
Hello my friend sanjana_aslam Ji,
After the marriage between spouses, new related word should be used, 'Husband/wife' and not 'partner'. I never encourage this. partner woird denotes some terms and conditions between two, whereas marriage has some other goal in both lives. Hasband and wife both are responsible. A clear division of duties has been done, in broder sense husband is responsible for out-side activities, whereas wife is for inside the house. Under changing pattern, a compromise is necessary between both. But 'ego' plays an important roll and both differ on small thing. If marriage is done as per custom, in my it is only once. Both have to decide mutually.
May God bless You and have a great time.
