What do you hide from your spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend?
By ilyzium
@ilyzium (1197)
Canada
August 23, 2009 9:22pm CST
Well I admit to hiding expensive purchases from the husband, and instead of paying by one credit card, will split it up between 2 credit cards that way he has no idea that I've spent $500 on a blouse or something. That way I'm happy he's happy and we have no problems. :)
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@ilyzium (1197)
• Canada
24 Aug 09
There's nothing out there that you're even tempted to hide, for fear that he/she might get upset at you for something? I guess I could also say that I hide the way I feel about certain family members of his. I think his brother for eg) is a real dork - very callous & unfeeling who is married to an incredibly selfish bag.
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
25 Aug 09
OMG, I can't even imagine paying $500 for any article of clothing! About the only thing that I sometimes hide from my family is when ppl in my family say certain things b/c I know it will set him off and it's not good for his blood pressure. We discuss all of our purchases and all of our finances.
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@ilyzium (1197)
• Canada
25 Aug 09
hi twoey,
You know the funny thing is that I haven't made any big clothing purchases since probably last year, and now it's the husband who surprises me with a designer purse, or shopping spree or something. Now I try to stick to the budget. My, how the times change! :) Now he seems to be the one making the major purchases. You should see his closet! He has way more clothes than me- over 75 dress shirts, about 60 ties, tons of designer suits, etc. Yeah, well he has this "fashionista" male friend of his in NY that can shop for himself all day and be quite content. Anyway, whenever my partner goes there for business,the friend/business partner takes him out for major shopping.
@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
25 Aug 09
I don't hide anything at the moment from my boyfriend. I pretty much tell him everything that happens in my life and what I do. I feel no reason to try and hide anything from him, I don't know what the point is.
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
24 Aug 09
i am currently a single mom for 9 years already, left my husband but tagged my kids along with me. on the start of the relationship i did not hide anything for i dont like him to hide anything from me. but ubfortunately that was not what happened. i dont like to keep anything from him for i know i will get hurt when i find out that he keeps secrets from me. i am honest with my kids as well and i hope they be honest to me as well.
@ilyzium (1197)
• Canada
24 Aug 09
At the same time I can understand why you might not want to hide anything from your partner either. Though I admit to hiding how much I spend on something (not too often though), I don't really hide secrets from him or anything like that. I figure if he's married to me he can hear all my secrets. ;)
@dlr297 (5409)
• United States
24 Aug 09
I never hide anything from my husband, especially about our finances. or what i spend. I believe that honesty,is the best way to keep each other happy. What are you going to do if it ever comes down to him finding out that you lied. make up more lies to cover up your first one. If i ever caught my husband lieing about something small like that i would wonder what else he would lie about.
Just something for you to think about. If you have to lie to be happy what good is it.
@ilyzium (1197)
• Canada
25 Aug 09
Oh the husband did find out at later date that I hid the purchases from him and made me stick to a budget. I guess lately I have been sticking to the budget because I haven't bought any major purchases for a while. Ah well, the recession has hit us all...He is pretty easy going though and always says that he can never say no to me, so I'm very lucky to be with him.
@anna728 (1499)
• United States
24 Aug 09
Well, right now I am single. I didn't really have anything I hid from my last boyfriend. I did hide some things from the guy I dated before him, though. We were friends for years before we dated, but we were a couple for a year. He would get kind of jealous of other guys, so I didn't want to tell him things that would upset him. Like, there was a guy I had a thing with the year before and used to hook up with who tried to ask me out to a movie. I said no, and didn't see him or anything, but I didn't tell my boyfriend because I knew it would just bother him even though it didn't need to.
@kkanaka (886)
• Singapore
24 Aug 09
I like to buy new things and he is not very interested in buying new clothes every now and then my small purchases I dont let him know as he will say something like again....? and he wont know if iam wearing a new dress.. he he he so he is happy and iam also happy
@ilyzium (1197)
• Canada
24 Aug 09
Well Kkanaka when you buy a new dress though do you ever hide it somewhere and put it out one day telling him that it's some old dress you've had forever and just forgot about? I also like buying furniture and nice things for the home and won't care how much something costs. I tend to go more for quality than quantity but the husband goes more for quantity.
