Does absence really make your heart grow fonder?

It used to be an issue with me, but now not so much. Last November a friend of mine moved out of the state, and relocated to Hawaii. I missed her so much for the first few months. All of a sudden my heart changed, and I wasn't thinking about her anymore. She still calls me once in awhile, but it's not the same. I moved on, and it feels 100% better:)

Hello my wonderful friend


What a great question

In my case absence makes my heart grow fonder, I worry all the time so if someone I know just goes away without a word I will worry until I hear from that person again, when I don't see my family for a certain amount of time I miss them like crazy then when I see them I say o.k enough is enough time to go lol not all the time just sometime, so you mean to tell me if I just left mylot out of the blue you would not miss me hmmmm, how sad is this,lol upon my return you will treat like we were never friends good thing I know this about you now so if for some reason I come up missing from mylot I will then return and stalk you lol (inside joke)

Hi DCLehnsherr
Same with me, I think absence makes me feel distant and I need time again to know my friends. After separate for weeks and months without any news (even with news, I still feel it's different if I'm not see their face directly and talk to them in real life). I need time to feel familiar again, talk for sometimes and then after that maybe I can feel close to my old friend again. Honestly, I feel sad, because sometimes I found that she/he has already changed and that we can't as close as in the past But I know that's life, she and me have different purpose and preferences in life, thus we make different choice that affect our behavior.
If I were close to her, I will really miss her in the first week or the first month, but after that time, if I never heard any news from her that miss feeling will turn into no feelings,,hehehe..

It does both. If you're in a love relationship, and you're away for a while, you're going to miss the person and be back with them. But if you are away for too long, you may eventually lose the love and find somebody else.

When I go away, I find that I don't miss most people and things until I am on my way back, because I'm busy or having fun, I guess. And then suddenly I miss everything and everybody terribly.

Whoever came up with that phrase of absence makes the heart grow fonder? I think you if you leave someone or have them leave you, that emptiness of being without them stays with you, making you miss them more. But i think you're right. After a while you get used to not having that person around. There are some who will hold on to that person forever, but most of us have the tendency to move on and make new realtionships. The heart is a difficult subject. Is it right to hold on to someone or let them go? Is looking back more difficult than moving forward?

That is a very thoughtful question. A very sensative saying too: Absence makes the heart grow fonder. But, I would think it would all depend on the person. If it is a person one very much likes, then the saying would hold true. If it is antohet type of person, then naturally it would take the other direction. I have had experiences both ways!

It only on some issue. If it's my family, friends and special person, absent does make my heart grow fonder. I'll start missing them and I am want to be with them. But some people who I just meet or not having a good relationship with, absent is better. It'll grow a distant between me and them (I don't know about them but it does for me)

it is a double edged sword, it can have one of 2 effects. either you shall miss the person terribly and realize that you really need them in your life and that your life is not complete without them. or you start to see things clearly and realize that you do not really need that person, or that they are actually and adverse influence in your life and you cannot see it when they are there.

I think it will depend on the character of a person. Some people have a positive effect when they don't see someone while other people would find something to replace them. So we cannot say that this thing applies to all of us.

As for myself, the absence of people i love makes my heart grow fonder for them. The excitability is rising intensely and the more i don't see a person, the more i am thrilled to see him again.

For my personal experience, when friends and family move to other places, I miss them initially but eventually I feel ok. With the new technologies available to chatting, it feels like we are close anyway. In fact, I am closer to a cousin who live in another country than the ones living here with me.