Will you allow your girlfriend to stay at boys place during the night?

@hireshd (490)
India
September 9, 2009 12:18pm CST
Will you allow your girlfriend to be at a boys place even when she has her own apartment near by where she can reach in 5 mins?
4 responses
15 Sep 09
I don't see why anyone would have a problem. If you trust your partner then you need to put your worries aside and not let it get in the way of things. I worry every day that my boyfriend will find another girl but that doesn't mean I stop him doing things because I completely trust him. I think you are always going to be scared of something happening when you love someone but you also have to have the trust there. I don't see why society has such a big problem with men and women being friends and going out together anyway. I feel like I can't meet up with any guys and do something just the two of us without it causing some kind of image that we are on a date together. I mean pretty much all the people I can get along with are men, I don't know why that's just the way it is and I just don't feel like I can do anything like go to the cinema or go out to dinner or anything. I don't want them thinking it's a date and I don't want other people to either. Why couldn't I stay over at a friends house? If I was going on holiday with a friend I would share a hotel room with them, isn't that basically the same? Sometimes it's just nice to have someone to say goodnight too and know that you aren't in the flat alone. I don't have many friends but I do worry about getting close to men incase I make my boyfriend upset. He has witnessed a close relationship I have had with a guy but I think the only reason he was comfortable with it is because he knew he was gay.
• United States
10 Sep 09
I know my boyfriend would never be comfortable with that, especially if it was JUST me and that guy alone. And to be fair, I wouldn't let him sleep at some girl's house either. I mean, of course we could both say we trust each other... but come on. He doesn't have any business sleeping over a girl's house to begin with. So I would immediately be suspicious.
@eLsMarie (4477)
• New Zealand
10 Sep 09
no, i wouldn't allow my boyfriend to stay overnight to a girl's place especially that his apartment is only 5 minutes away from the girl's place.
@satan88 (584)
• United States Minor Outlying Islands
10 Sep 09
it depends on if she gives you a reason as to why is she staying there in the first place. The real question is do you trust her enough to let her decide where to draw the line between friends? I probably wouldn't like it if my girlfriend did that either but there's really nothing you can do. She'll get mad at you if you try to run her life too much.