Relationships of relatives diminishing increasing friendships
@yugasini (12892)
Secunderabad, India
September 13, 2009 10:36am CST
hi mylot friends,
In my child hood days, my mother have 4 elder sisters and one younger sister,all are having children,mostly i only the person might know every children in the families of my mother's sisters,some of my cousins does not about the children s of all my mother's sisters,to my surprise after the death of my mother's sisters that relationships are gone with the wind,now i am having a very less relationship with their children,i think this is common in all families,but friendship is getting stronger,mylot is the proof for growing friendship is fast,am i correct?
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4 responses
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
14 Sep 09
Hi Yugasini. My cousins are scattered all over the US, so I have lost touch with many, and the same with nieces and nephews. I do get to see some of them a holiday gatherings. But yes, friends now seem closer than relatives...especially my good online friends, such as here on MyLot!
Blessings to you...
Karen
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
hi yugasini,
asians are so very keen about relationships. my parents brought us very close to our aunts and uncles and cousins. with my daughter and my siblings children, we always make it a point to have a get together at least even once in a month. we have relatives abroad and yet there is this email and telephones to make us close to each other and learn what is happening to them even far away from us.
to mylot friends, it is always very nice to hear from them specially when i get to be absent doing mylot for a day or two due to work and sickness.
they are very thoughtful. and i love them.
ann
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@yugasini (12892)
• Secunderabad, India
14 Sep 09
hi ann,
thanks for the response,you are right that asians have more relation ship,but i found that the relationships are diminishing,you can find about the thing in my discussion or responses about my answer,have a nice day
@vandana7 (102698)
• India
14 Sep 09
Hi Yugasini, it is better that way. In some ways, relatives wittingly or unwittingly become competitors, while friends help u grow. U remain under impression that when times will be bad, u can always turn to ur relatives, but they will come up with pittance, and not even return favors that in all possibility u did to them! They take u for granted! Friends are just that. They dont wish to take advantage of u, they let u know any new way to earn without thinking - hey, that person will be earning more than me, because they are sure if they need some help u will be there and those funds that u earned with their help will be made available to them. And likewise they will also reciprocate the gesture in full measure. Personally, I feel relatives start looking down on u when u no longer meet their financial expectations, whereas u can find friends at every level.
@yugasini (12892)
• Secunderabad, India
15 Sep 09
hi vandana,
thanks for the response,what you have said it is right now,i am facing the same problem with relatives,but it is compulsory to me to interact with them,but i am not pin pointing them,that is our fate,so you have also faced the situations with relatives,friends are some what better than relatives,have a nice day
@good2go2001 (915)
• United States
13 Sep 09
I see this in my own family. As people pass away friendship becomes more the norm
@yugasini (12892)
• Secunderabad, India
14 Sep 09
hi good2go,
thanks for the response,your quite right,as people pass away the relationships are diminishing just like that,have a nice day
