how can your forgive someone when thy are not asking for forgiveness?

hi there,

well in that case, don't forgive her.. and yes you are right,
why forgive her when she never say sorry for it, that she did not mean it..
i know this is not right, it's not a good advice
but in my case, i will not forgive that kind of person..
she needs to be feel sorry or to know that she is wrong..
we know that sorry is the most hardest word to say, but it depends
on the situation.. it really depends..

janebeth..

I am not the kind of person that could ask forgiveness directly say it to the person personally I make amends of my mistakes by changing my attitudes toward him as he may detect soon I am in for forgiving side..If you really love a person no matter how insulting she becomes you will humbly be the one to talk to her first as some women are very shy to ask for forgiveness even it is their own fault. For me their is no need to wait when deep inside we're both eager for a reconciliation. Make it fast than to be sorry later..Love is patience and full of understanding.

I do understand where you are coming from. It is really hard to forgive when the person who have hurt you is not asking for it. Just let it be. Only time can heal the wound that has caused you pain.

This is really bad as she is not even realizing what she has done to you and her action has hurt you too, at least she could have asked for forgiveness. Well I will forgive a person who at least realizes what he/she has done and ask for forgiveness but someone who is not realizing his/her mistake is really immature for me.

I think the relationship will make it work if the persons who are in relationship have their respect, trust and understanding. Being accused, it is not about to let your gf open up the misleading situation,it is because of the pride. The easy way to continue the relationship, is to forgive her even she have not yet brought up to you for her wrong accusation. Only time will make a way to open up the past problem and that is the time you can now make the clarification.

Hi Helscream!

Well based on my experience, if you can't forgive her then you should forget it, there's no use if no one feeling guilty, if you force to make her feeling sorry, it will makes things getting worst, though i'm not reading your previous discussion, but when there are no one feeling guilty, it's the matter of principle ...

So if i'm on your shoes, i will forget it ...

A true Christian forgives even if the person who did wrong to him does not ask for it. You can forgive but you do not normally forget about the thing that hurt you. The best thing you need to do is just forgive the person, try to forget what he did to you and be more cautious next time. If you hate someone, you aren't at ease. If you are mad or angry at someone, you will never have peace of mind.

It is not a matter of the other person asking for forgiveness. You can forgive from your heart. When you forgive someone, you feel a great sense of relief. It does not matter whether the other person asks for forgiveness or not.

But we should not force ourselves to forgive anybody. If you cannot forgive, do not forgive. Forgiveness has to be whole-hearted. Half-hearted forgiveness is no frogiveness.

Hi there Hel!

First of all I know how you feel and what you're going through is not at all easy. But all you've got to bear in mind is that you're forgiving her because it's the right thing to do. It's her loss if she doesn't want to ask you for forgiveness although she has done wrong to you. Now, you've got to show her that you're much more mature than her and that you pity her for all the things she has done to you. You have to forgive her so that you can forget this trauma and continue to live a good life that's all brand new.

Good luck and God blees you!

Someone who never realized his/her mistakes and still continue doing it doesn't deserve to be forgiven. But it's up to you. You can forgive that particular person but can you forget it?

If it's my fault, I'll apologize. But if it's not, I'll fight back to make sure I am not wrongly accuse for anything. It's not like I really want to hear that word of apology but I don't want to be look down from others.