Conflicted and Confused

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First of all let me say Hi to all my mylot freinds. I have been gone for a while because I got a new job and in a new city. My new job is demanding and is taking a lot of time so I don't get to the computer much. Cause I like to sleep at least 5 hours a night. But I have a situation that has me conflicted and confused. Many of you know I have been going through a divorce this past year. After 3.5 years of marriage my husband one month after moving me to a new city where I didn't have a job, walked out on me and never looked back and he then filed for divorce about 2 months later. We are at the conclusion of that process, hopefully the paperwork has been filed and its just a matter of waiting for the court's stamp of approval. I have since moved on with my life as best as possible. I got a new job that I love, and I moved back near friends. All good right. Then today something odd happens. I get a phone call from my ex husband. I haven't heard from him since December when he told me that he didn't want to see me or talk to me. He called to tell me that his father had passed away. He talked to me for about 30 seconds and confessed he didn't know why he called me, but now he wants to be my "friend" on facebook again (he blocked me and everyone that remotely knew me back when he left me). I am really confused by his behavior. I am of course sad for him and his family for their loss (even though I am convinced his father put him up to the divorce) and I understand he is scared as he doesn't have a job right now and his father was the primary earner in their household (yes, he is living with his parents) and was also the primary personality. I know he and his mother will be lost, but why is he reaching out to me? He made it clear in the past he wants nothing to do with me so why send me on an emotional roller coaster now? He surely can't think there is any kind of relationship left between us--he has been ugly all through the divorce. What do ya'll think about all this?