Can a person changed his personality for his love one?

Hi Lovelyn,

YES you are absolutely right, we can not change the habits of
a person even for the love, unless if he himself want to change
by himself. So changing the habits will always depends upon
the mentality of the particular person and thus he should decide
by himself to change the habits, otherwise it is too wasted everything
for this attempt. As I have knew many peoples, they used said that
they need to change their habits because of their true love, but
practically it is NOT possible for them, but at the same time if they
need to change their habits by them self, then it is absolutely very
easy to change anything . So we need their understanding mentality
in order to change their habits or personality.

Have a nice day.

Hi lovelyn!
In my opinion if a person is truly in love, then definitely he/she can change his/her habits.and if those habits are bad than what can be the better reason than changing them for the one u love. Its not even close to impossible,if one has the will power to do so.
I myself have changed many habits of mine for my love. I used to spend money a lot on unwanted things but now i focus more on savings. and i m also trying to change my habit of having "bed tea" for him.

Well, I believe that everybody does change. Maybe we can't see the change, but still they do change. There are some reasons why people do change. And basically they change in purpose, for example they don't feel comfortable with the current condition so they change, radically or the other way around. And in this topic, I think that someone for sure can change his personality for his love one. I know that changing personality is not an easy thing to do, and it's pretty hard, takes time to do so. But again, as he has a purpose (in this case is his love one), I believe that he's able to change.=)

I believe that we cannot impose a change. However, we can help him be a better if we are seeing bad habits from them. In my case, I have a suitor before that I don't like because he's a smoker. I have asked to quit smoking not because I don't like smoking but it's because smoking is really bad for our health. I said that if he cannot focus on doing it, which I am not asking to change overnight, I asked him to at least show respect to others who does not smoke. We all know that 2nd change smoker are mostly effected and not those who actually smoke.

Yes, it is true that change should come from that person. We cannot really asked someone to change if it is not coming from within himself. Change should come naturally from that someone and not because we are persisting that someone to change. What we can do is to inspire and cite the things why we want a particular habit or character change.

Hi lovelyn..

I think you have a point. A person can't really his attitude just because of the

one he love. But, it is also possible if the person is really willing to change

but if he's not he/she might just be a man pleaser. He/she will be a good one if

you there but if your not he/she will be doing the bad habbits that he/she had.

However, I think there is one thing that can really change a person it is God.

I for one made the choice to change for him. I`m kinda conservative at times and he likes to have romance and all that and since I just love him so, I kinda think that it wouldn`t be that bad if I show him my love through romance and stuff and it what keeps us together.

You can't change a person into the person you want them to be. They have to make the changes for themself, not you.

i dont like the idea of changing one's personality for the sake of a loved one. one must change for himself so that others can benefit from the change too.

you are very right. You should accept a person at face value and know that change will come because no one ever ever stays the same. Our experiences change us. When I was married for example, my husband knew that if he continued with his drugs and drinking that I would be leaving. I thought he quit for the longest time. What really happened was that he got sneakier about it all. It of course came out eventually. I would never attempt to change anyone again. I just move on. If someone is going to change it is not going to be because I want them to. If they do...it's temporary. If they change for you then sooner or later they will revert back because of you. Any changes in a person have to come naturally and because of their own desire to change for themselves and no other reason.

hello lovelyn! on my own view, a person can change his/her personality for a love one. it can be change gradually but not abruptly because that's what he/she used to do before. he/she can change an risk everything specially if she/he truely inloved just to be wtih the loved one. nothing is constant here on earth but changed..