Do you think reading your husband's cellphone inbox and sent items wrong?

well i would say that it is really wrong to see ur partner's private belongings without his/her concent.. it also depends on the understanding of the two..

Yes, its wrong, but sadly sometimes the trust just isn't there and its something you need to do. A girl who my partner employed kept sending him messages ending in xxxxxx which he didn't tell me about, when I saw the messages I asked him and he said he didn't know why but he had been responding with a couple of kisses on his texts to her... Obviously I went mad as I had never even met this girl. When I did meet her (taking the kids to visit him at work) she tried to be my best friend and I gave her the cold shoulder. She quit a couple of weeks later. I still have no idea what it was all about but he doesn't have her number any more. And yes, I still keep tabs on him. If anyone's going to mess me about, I want to know before everyone else does!

For me, i think you can do that once in a while but not very often or even everyday. Don't show your husband that you don't trust him coz trust is very important in a relationship. It's good that you're not letting him see you while checking on his celphone. The normal thing that a husband would do is that he might get irritated esp. if just the sound of a txt msg., you'll grab your husband's cel and you will even be the first one to read the msg intended for him. That's very annoying. You know, that thing already happened to me. And for me, it's a sign of insecurity and distrust. It's good to be jealous once in a while coz that only means that you really love that person and sometimes it spices up the love bet. you and your husband. But too much of it of course, is a poison and will just do more harm that good. Well, of course if he already did that to you once, and if you already sense something is wrong in your relationship, well, that's another story. I guess, you have all the reason to do that.