why some people just remember/saw the bad things...?

hello redphile!

yes true, some people are just hard to please...
and most of the time our small acts of kindness are taken for granted...
but why is it that even the smallest mistake that we have done, some people will make it big & make it a topic of gossiping? grrrr...
i mean, okay if what we do is a really big & hurtful mistake, then fine i will understand if they tell things about it...but with a petty mistakes...wow!

It's all human nature, and some worse than the other. People do rationalize, how else can you justify your feeling if all you can think of are the good things, even though that is what happens 99% of the time. But that 1% gives you all the justification of how you feel and what yo do.

hi lordozz!

yes, these people just make things worst...making simple, little mistakes into one controversy! huh!
and besides, they should know that we are also human who's prone in doing some mistakes...i mean nobody's perfect...
and you know, what's more hurtful? because usually the people who do this are those who we think are already close to us...how can they be like that, and its really disappointing coz they are also the people who i treat best & the mistake that i have done is actually nothing to do with them...huh!
actually, they are still willing to be my friend, & actually act like one in front of me...but without me...they are saying bad things...

anyway, thanks for sharing...

wow! so many questions but the answers are so few...tell me.

any way, jaiho, i agree with you...coz that's what really happening around us...but hey girl, im not in showbiz nor in politics! haha so im not used to these kind of things...huh!
you say it right, and that's what i just realize now, that these people around me, whom i treated as friend are just waiting to see some mistakes from me so that they can have something to gossip about! waaah! how can they be like that to me when all i do is treat them well...(ang hirap maging mabait) its difficult to be kind coz people will take advantage on you...
and no matter how good we are to some...this will be on no use when you make even a little mistake...

That is really something to be learn my dear.
Being good,no matter how we treated people around us in good manners,to the extent that we even look stupid sometimes just to please them,not to hurt them becoz we respect their feelings.We step down to their level,trying to reach their minds(makibagay)and to mingle with them.
And,just for one mistake..one small mistakes...all the goodness had no traces at all.
As if you were the most bad person they have ever known.

The most painful part is...they are the last person/people we thought that could do such harm to us,becoz,we consider them as our friends.

Well my dear...i stop asking questions in my mind,becoz,i can't find the right answer

Why...why..why...
Why is that..after all the good things we ever done,still,there are people who wants to see us fall down?,,Maybe becoz...they were jealous and envious,that's one reason i guess

correct...of all the people, why are those people close to us are capable of doing such things...
and to think that of all the people, they are the one who we treated well...
this has been a question that's bothering me for the last few days...
and what is more hurtful is that, why we need to know such things to other people & not from them? see, if they find something wrong with us, why do they have to tell it to other people & not to me, right? huh...
now i've learn another lesson in my life...don't trust too much & don't believe in everything that looks good...huh!*sigh*

and what is more hurtful is that, why we need to know such things to other people & not from them? see, if they find something wrong with us, why do they have to tell it to other people & not to me, right?

Uhmnnn,you know why my dear?

They don't have the courage to ask and confront you becoz,they know they are doing wrong at you.
They believed on themselves they are right,but deep within their evil minds and heart they know very well that..they are the one doing wrong against you.

yeah, that maybe the thing...huh!
and maybe they not even sure if what i do is really a mistake...haha
maybe they just lost out of topic to discuss and so they think about me...and say this & that...do you think i should confront them?or just let it be to avoid more troubles?

sometimes....its difficult to be a 'celebrity'! hahaha just kidding...

well,sometimes you need to confront them(if you think it is really needed)becoz,keeping in silent would make other people think that you are really bad.
Just talk to them in a cool manner with poise (hehehe)

I mean dear,smile at them and ask..."where did i go wrong"? Does anyone among you never committed mistakes that you think i am a sinner and worth to be treated like this? (ahemmm..so much drama huh hehehe)

Seriously speaking my friend,if you think it is better to confront them,do it.At least,it can lessen the burden in your heart and mind.

well, i wish i could do it...hehe
but i also ask my husband if why some people are like that...and he just told me not to mind them coz they are people who just got nothing to do and say...i mean some people are just tactless...saying things without even thinking...
woah!

i'm afraid coz i don't really like confrontations and i am very weak when it comes to things like this....
maybe i will just pray for them? haha
anyway, thanks for the advices...i'l take it for consideration and oh...i like your lines...hehe very cinematic!

good my friend,that's better then...pray for them that have sinned against you.
I'm proud of you,your friends should be thankful to have you as their friends.

Keep it up gurl

thanks amiga...
well that's the least i can do, since i can't confront them...huh!

yup,i also had that attitude...let their insecurities kill them

haha...

thanks for the mark dear,and have a great weekend:)

happy weekend too!

haha...very true, its just like a plain white paper with a black dot...when we ask people what they see on the paper, they will say its the small dot in there...huh! and they didn't notice the whiteness of the whole paper...
some just don't know how to appreciate...
and i don't understand how this can make them feel superior...so does it mean that the fall down of someone is their success? hmmmm

thanks kling for sharing...

haha...but we are humans, prone in making mistakes...and sometimes, we are not even aware that what we have done is already wrong in their eyes...huh! people!
its really annoying coz some acts as if they are the only good people in this world & as if they are not doing anything wrong...

thanks dianmelydia for sharing...

hello neil!
glad to see you here... yeah, its been a while since the last time i open a discussion...i'm not really busy but rather i just don't have any discussion to open & so i just make myself busy in responding...

anyway, back to topic...
well, in your neighbor's case, something already happens in the past, yeah, some bad things and its difficult for the wife to forget coz maybe she is really hurt that bad & maybe she didn't forgive yet her husband...
that also happens to me, when my husband & i are still bf/gf, we always fight coz i always brought up the past...thing that i think is not good for the relationship...
its good for you that your wife treats you that way...you are lucky.
i think its just a matter of true forgiveness & moving on...

but on my part now, i mean what's happening to me now, is that, i have this friend (well i treated them as friend) who i think is good to me, coz she really is when we are together...but i just found out that she's telling things about me, some little mistake that i made... and she tell it to other people...i just can't figure out why she do that when all i do is treat her well...i feel like all the good things that i've done for her are just put into trash...
well i guess that's life...

yeah, they are pathetic...huh!
well revenge is another thing and will ruin life...

thanks buping

hello irefed!

well its good if they still see the good things on us...
but why is it that they only brought up the bad things that they see? and what's worst is that they even talk about it with other people, thus making it as a gossip...
i mean why they have to tell it to other people & not just tell it straight to my face?

thanks for sharing...

hi joanna!

really? you have a blog about this? hope i can see that...

well you are right...people just see that small mistake that we've done & taking for granted the good things that we've done...so sad...

thanks for sharing...

NO, I mean a discussion here in mylot..sorry.. ...Anyway, yeah, I've experience this at my work place and there's really a discrimination between the old one and the new one...I'm a newbie in our company...that's why I think I'm being taken advantage...

ah okay, no need to say sorry...

well, that's really true when we are new in our workplace...and not only taken advantage...some seniors also have a tendency of always finding faults in what we do...huh! but of course not all... coz there are still some seniors that are really helpful and supportive...all we can do is to just treat them well and just be nice & do your work...

Yeah, not all seniors are like that. But others?? I hate what they are doing to us, newbies...they seem look at us as if we don't know anything...But anyway, just sharing with you my experience.

its okay, i understand for i have experienced same things before...
maybe some of them think of us a s a threat to them...hehe
so just don't mind them & just do our work well to the best that we can...

hello hazelrose!

i am happy to see you here on my discussion...

yes, its really sad & painful that there are some people like them...and the worst thing is that, they are the people who we treated as friends...

God bless you too...

Yes, i know that kind of feelings.It's hard to accept because we thought that they were our true friends but it so sad because they were the one who pull us to be down.Any way, that situation makes me more prayerful.and have in my mind that all things happened for our good and to be strong for all the trials we've met.I'm so touch with this discussion,as if history repeat itself. ha ha ha!Good day friend!

Yes, i know that kind of feelings.It's hard to accept because we thought that they were our true friends but it so sad because they were the one who pull us to be down.Any way, that situation makes me more prayerful.and have in my mind that all things happened for our good and to be strong for all the trials we've met.I'm so touch with this discussion,as if history repeat itself. ha ha ha!Good day friend!

hello hazelrose,

so this also happens to you in the past?
well, i just have a bad feeling about it coz of all the people...why them? right?
i mean, i can accept it without hurt feelings when the issue came from the people who are not my 'friends'...but oh...they are the one who are close to my heart...of all the people around me... so sad...

but as you said, it just teach me a lesson & makes me stronger & more prayerful...and teach me to not to trust too much & always be cautious...huh!
you know, this topic really have an impact on me, coz i feel something in my heart that even makes me teary while writing...

thanks again...

aw...sorry...i didn't erase the first part...hehe forget.