Would you forgive?
By Rachiel
@funkeyguhl (1743)
Philippines
October 27, 2009 2:49pm CST
Disagreements is a given in relationships. Regardless if it's your husband, your friend, boyfriend, parents, sister or cousin.
I, for one, try not to have any 'angst' or 'bitterness' in my heart most especially if the act done was not that grave... but what if, a friend has stepped on the boundary line of being too nosy and has done something that is totally unacceptable?
What would you do?
3 responses
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
If that friend asked for forgiveness and I see his sincerity, may be I would forgive him. But I will stress out to him that the next time he does that, I will not forgive him anymore... for trust cannot be brought back anymore. I already given him a chance so he must take care of the trust that I gave him. Once is enough two is too much.
@funkeyguhl (1743)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
I do agree with your comment... however if that person has broken your trust... it is very hard to gain it back...it's as if at the back of head, you will always think he / she might do this to me again...
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
Trust is really hard to gain back once broken. But time heals everything. Gaining back trust needs lots of hard work, it could be very difficult but that is possible.
It really depends on the weight of the sin and the person who is asking for forgiveness.
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
The ending point funkeyguhl, would you be able to forgive and forget the thing that your friend did to you? Never say that your friend is forgiven if in your heart you know that there is a bit pain and anger still. That will hunt you both down.
@apexiph (123)
• Malaysia
22 Dec 09
Hi. It depends on a situation. For me, if you want your relationship to last for a long time, the key of it is 'PATIENT'. Of course not all of situation can apply to 'PATIENT'. But most of the situation that occur in relationship can be settle by patient. For a relationship, we didn't lose anything for being patient..take this as an advice.. :
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
Good day to you.
For me, I will weigh the amount of friendship that we have. If that friend is valuable to me, I will be the one to initiate the communication and will ask why that situation happened. I will also ask why he/she had done it to me. However, if that friendship is just like an acquaintance, perhaps I will just wait for this friend to approach me and ask for an apology. I will forgive that friend but maybe it will take time to heal the wounds within the friendship. I also believe, that everything can be patch-up in an open communication.
