Whenever your children get in trouble, do you get in trouble as well?
By kykidd
@kykidd (6812)
United States
October 29, 2009 2:57pm CST
Whenever your children get in trouble, do you feel like you are getting in trouble as well? If your child does something at school, do the teachers or principals call you? If so, does it seem like they are jumping onto you as well as your child?
4 responses
@jalucia (1431)
• United States
29 Oct 09
Sometimes I get a little defensive. Other times, I let my child bear the embarrassment all on his own. It all depends on what it is that he's getting in trouble for. If what the person is saying to me sounds outrageous, uncharacteristic of my child or like it's being exaggerated I begin to take it personally. I have to refute the validity of the complaint, at this point. But, sometimes I tell my child not to do something over and over again, and he just doesn't get it through his head. So, when he gets in trouble by someone else for doing that same thing, I let him endure the embarrassment. Then I know he'll stop.
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@kykidd (6812)
• United States
29 Oct 09
That's pretty funny. It's amazing how when they are around there own parents they don't mind getting yelled at, but if someone else says something to them, they are embarrassed a little easier.
That all goes back to the saying that kids are better when they are around other people than they are their own parents. I haven't figured out the logic in that quite yet. Maybe it is because they get accustomed to their parents and sometimes forget that they are watching. LOL
@jalucia (1431)
• United States
29 Oct 09
This baffles me all the time. My child is always getting rave reviews when he goes to other peoples houses. I just grin and accept the compliment. All the while, I'm thinking about the craziness that I'm in for when I get home. But, my aunt once told me that if you have a child who knows how to behave when you are not around then you did a good job as a parent. So, I take his behavior as a compliment to me.
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@kykidd (6812)
• United States
30 Oct 09
It sounds like your aunt was a wise person. I know when my friends leave their kids with me, they are always surprised that they behave so well. I also have a friend who thinks her kids are spoiled, while in my eyes they are some of the best kids that I have ever been around. Too funny!
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
Parents in a way "get into trouble" by attending to their child's needs/problems. I personally think that it's not really "getting into trouble", I would just be inconvenienced by the abnormal run of daily activities. Surely, my children's welfare is my priority and I can't just leave them alone getting through problems. I would like to be informed by principals and teachers of my children's doings at school. In fact, I initiate asking them how my children are doing there. That was especially when they were in the elementary and high school years. Of course, I listen to both sides before I come up with a decision.
@kykidd (6812)
• United States
30 Oct 09
Sounds like you have a great way of looking at the issues. In today's world, the adults are not always right. It's a lot different than it was when we were children. Although back then, I'm not sure that they were always right either. Sometimes I think they were just grouchy, and we were taught to respect our elders so it didn't matter. LOL
Thank you for your response and have a gorgeous evening!
@Craicha (801)
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30 Oct 09
yes of course .... aside from the principal and the teacher call my attention bcoz of the problem of my kids...im glad that they did that im aware too of hows my kids at school and then after that i settle with my kids at home of what he done at school.......
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@kykidd (6812)
• United States
30 Oct 09
I remember when we were kids. Getting in trouble outside of the house was worse than getting in trouble at home.
That was back in the day when they actually still gave paddlings at school. And if you got paddled at school, you were sure to get it again at home. So the main thing we tried to do outside of the home was be on our best behavior. LOL
Thank you for your response in this discussion, and have a good evening here on myLot!
@getbrowser (1708)
• China
29 Oct 09
I can't agree with you anymore.
It is obviously that parents will feel nervous when their children get in trouble. I have no children until now, as you have said above, whenever your children get in trouble, parents will feel like they are getting in trouble as well. The children are the most important part in the life of parents and they have paid much time and in formation to them.
According to parents, they will happy as well when their children enjoy a better life.
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@kykidd (6812)
• United States
30 Oct 09
I think in the beginning it was really meant for each generation to do much better than the generation before. And if you pay off all of your debt and you build equity in your home and other assets that you own, that is sure to happen.
I just don't understand why the world isn't in much better shape than they are. I see how the older homes are so much bigger, and much better built. I just can't understand why the economy is in such poor shape. It simply amazes me.
