My friend who said were a friend has been making fun of me behind my back

United States
November 2, 2009 5:16am CST
I have a friend..someone who says they are my best friend..and turns out they have been asking me to do things for them..and then they go and use what they ask me to do as a reason for joking and making fun of me.
7 responses
• United States
2 Nov 09
This saddens me, because I know you as one of the sweetest, kindest, gentlest people I have ever met. I am sorry that your "friend" did this to you, I would advise you to reconsider that "friendship", you don't need toxic people like that in your life. I'm so sorry that happened to you! (((HUGS)))
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• United States
4 Nov 09
Thanks for your kind words.. have we met ? Or we simply mylot acquaintances?Trying to recall who you are;) but yes..seems like shy people attract bullies.
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• United States
17 Nov 09
Oh, I see. I hope you are recooperating much better now from such painful losses. I have my own to deal with due to decisions made by me an for me.
@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
2 Nov 09
From past experience, you want to make sure that what your friend is saying is true. Sometimes rumours get started, and you're not hearing the correct information. I would sit down and talk to your friend, and find out what is going on. If you find out that your "friend" is laughing and joking about you, I would no longer be their friend.
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• United States
2 Nov 09
Excellent advice, I had not even thought of the possiblility that one person could be making stuff up about what her friend may have said or done.
• Philippines
2 Nov 09
Break your relationship with them, they are not your best friends or even a real friend. There are a lot of people there that can be true friends, but make sure you chose who they are very wisely, I have a lot of friends but only a few can be said to be real or true friends, it takes time and a lot of experiences for someone to be your real and true friends. My friends and I make fun of each other but not to the extent where we hurt ourselves, if it happens we say sorry.
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• United States
4 Nov 09
I am breaking the relationship..and circumstaces really broke them for me.. I am simply crushed by how someone used the name friend.
• Malaysia
2 Nov 09
If you know their real intentions are, just leave them and don't let them take any advantage of you and making fun of you again. You don't need so-called friends like that who will only make other people hurt by their stupid behaviors. They will just use you if you stay with them and pretending to be nice to bully you again. So, just leave and find other people who take the meaning of friendship seriously.
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• United States
4 Nov 09
THat is what I am trying to do now.. My mind had believed for so long this person was a friend but, in reality, was not.
@picjim (3002)
• India
2 Nov 09
keep your distance from such friends.They are there only to belittle you.Try and select friends who are genuinely interested in you.If the idea is to pull one another s leg once in a while its o.k ,but to do it repeatedly means they don't have good thoughts or intentions about you.
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• United States
4 Nov 09
Thanks.. will be doing that.. appreciate you stepping in with concern; and sorry for the late response; am still trying to come to grips with the whole idea.
@mdaazam (826)
• Indore, India
2 Nov 09
Okay mate im serious , you can follow it as it has always worked for me no matter how hard the situation gets ! If i were you i would collect my friends and if you dont have (like the one you have are on that dumbs side),you can just make a couple of them and somehow put in there heads that to support you when you make fun of that ugly guy ! All you have to do is pass a comment like 'U look nice mate !' And as soon as he replies with a positive reply hit him with something creative like 'It would be more better if you would have bathed !' or say 'You dont believe in ironing clothes right! OLd thing huh!' You never have to be a good humour full guy to these things , even the best recite there verses and punches always . Just remember not to even smile whilst the act , because at such times seriousness works magic and even saves your behind when your try goes invain ! I will be pleased if all this does any good to you ! Cheerz !
• United States
4 Nov 09
Seems a bit cruel .. I see your point.. and thank you for your advice on this matter. . will think about it.
@Fireheart (683)
• India
2 Nov 09
well that sure is making fun of you really i hate people who does that and sees to it that his mouth is shut forever thats what i do,joking of me is one thing that i dont like it,anyway little joking is ok as friends that i can tolerate but too much if i cant bare i take my own action sometimes i do revenge like taking him into my joke series.you should tell him about it,if he doesn't react shut him up or break him.